(Closed) Catholics: Would you take Communion at Protestant Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: Catholics: Would you take Communion at Protestant Wedding?
    Yes, absolutely, since it is open to all Christians of faith : (25 votes)
    29 %
    Yes because it is a special, one time event and still honoring God : (4 votes)
    5 %
    No because I just wouldn't feel comfortable outside of a Catholic Church : (26 votes)
    31 %
    No, absolutely not, because I believe it would be a sin : (30 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    No, because as Catholics we are forbidden from taking communion outside of the Catholic Church.

    Post # 4
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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance is (really was) Catholic and I’m Episcopalian. We’re getting married in my church. He found a bit that was part of the Eccumenical Movement that basically says that Catholics are able to take communion in other Christian Churches in order to further the community of Christian/Catholic faith…especially in the case of weddings, funerals, etc.

    On the other side, at Protestant churches, you are more than welcome to take communion.

    Post # 5
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    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Seeing as communion is regularly performed as part of protestant weddings, you could skip it and no one would notice.  Or what if the two of you had a ceremony where you took your first communion together as husband and wife?

    If you are adamant about doing the communion, I doubt it will make people uncomfortable.  They have the choice of whether or not to participate.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m Catholic and have taken communion at another church.  But that was mostly because of the situation.  I went camping with a friend and other families from her church and they had a small service on Sunday.  I attended and when it came time for communion, they passed the bread around in a circle and offered it to each other.  I didn’t want to be rude (and I also didn’t think it a big deal) so I took communion.

    However, if I’m actually at a church in a normal service, I would pass on communion since I’m not sure I’m actually supposed to take it.  I would definitely not find it offensive though and I’m not sure why anyone would.  Catholics know and understand that other Christian demoninations have communion.  I also don’t think it necessary to have any sort of explanation either in the programs or said by the pastor. 

    Post # 8
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    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    This is an issue in the reverse as well, where Protestants properly should not take Communion in the Catholic Church, although I once had a priest with whom I worked at a Catholic organization explain to me that a priest is never to refuse to serve Communion to someone who comes forward to receive it.

    My Darling Husband and I are evangelical Christians, and we believe that Communion must be taken according to guidelines found in Scripture and not in an improper manner. Although we had Communion at our wedding, it was just for the two of us as our first act as husband and wife.  By doing this, we avoided any issues of guests feeling awkward or potentially participating in the Lord’s Supper improperly.

    Post # 9
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    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I don’t know anything about what the Catholic church says about it, but I’m Episcopalian and at communion they always invite anyone who is a baptised Christian to participate. There are always some people who don’t, and it’s cool. At my brother’s Episcopalian ceremony they had a full communion service, and there were a few people who chose not to. It isn’t rude whatsoever if you decline, so really it’s a personal choice, or maybe a choice that depends on what your religion says. 

    You probably won’t be the only ones to decline if you go that route. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @solidarity:  Oddly enough, they actually aren’t. The reason I know this is because I looked into it. I’m a non-conformist marrying a Catholic, in a Catholic church. I did originally consider an ecumenical communion in the morning of my wedding, because non-Catholics are not allowed to take Catholic mass during the wedding service, so this was a way of including everyone. My future in-laws said it was not allowed so I looked it up and nowhere in the catechism or canon law does it say that it is not allowed (at least that I could find).

    And, theoretically, there is no reason why it should not be allowed, seeing as it is not the Real Presence, and is more symbolic.

    However, I do know that a lot of Catholics would be uncomfortable taking it outside of their own church, including my future in-laws.

    Post # 11
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    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wouldn’t take communion, because I don’t feel comfortable doing so outside the Catholic church.  I am getting married at my FI’s family’s Lutheran church.  The Pastor asked if we would like communion as part of the sevice.  While Fiance probably would take it, I just wouldn’t feel comfortable doing so.  We aren’t including communion in the ceremony.

     

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Preface this by my saying that I have not considered myself Catholic for a very long time, but my mother is quite devout and no way would she take communion at a protestant church , and she would likely consider it blasphemous if she knew Catholics who were doing that.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My dad is a very devout Catholic, while I’m more of a laissez-faire Catholic. We just attended my cousin’s wedding in a Lutheran church, and I wasn’t sure whether or not we were supposed to take communion, so I asked my dad. His answer was yes, but I think he might have had some kind of justification about the Catholic and Lutheran churches both believing in transubstantiation. I’m not sure if that’s correct, and I don’t know whether it would apply to a Methodist church, but at any rate – I definitely don’t think it would be offensive or awkward for Catholics. Your church, your faith, your rules! 

     

     

     

    (Then again, I’ve attended Jewish synagogues and participated in the prayers and singing, so I’m not exactly strict about not participating at other people’s religious worship.)

     

    ETA: I just googled it, and looks like my dad was wrong – Catholics aren’t supposed to take communion at Lutheran churches because Lutherans believe in consubstantiation rather than transubstantiation. Oops. Well… either way, I don’t think it would be offensive at all, even if Catholics didn’t participate. 

     

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I think you should just choose to do what you want in the end. I have been to numerous Catholic weddings where I just stayed seated while most people took communion since I am non-denominational protestant and I was not the only one who just remained seated. It’s a little awkward with people trying to get around you but not really a big deal if some guest partake and some do not. At all other weddings I have attended communion was not part of the service. However, I have attended church with my SO at a a few Lutheran services and as long as they invite everyone to partake I go up for communion.

    Post # 15
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    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I personally wouldn’t take Communion at a non-Catholic church. However, I think you should do whatever you want. Those who don’t want to take Communion will not and those who do will. No big deal.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Wrenny:  Yes I’m 90% sure it was the 1983 Code of Canon Law

     

    ETA: I’m not trying to start a religious debate here, but it saddens my heart that Catholics even have this struggle and need to find a “loop hole” to take communion at another Christian church. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

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