(Closed) CATS DRIVE ME CRAZY!! but still love them. HELP!!

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hope you aren’t serious about hitting your cats and locking them in a crawlspace..

It sounds like you may need to give at least one of them away. Male cats can be total bullies and it doesn’t always go away when they are neutered. You could also consider talking to a behaviorist, but I honestly don’t know how much you can train cats.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Okay. So this is just my own cat owner opinion, but here’s what I know about cats, litter boxes, and cats who like to do their business outside of the box.

  • You should have 1 box for each cat, plus one. I do not have this. I have two cats and two boxes. They both pee in one, and poop in the other. It seems like a weird complicated process to me, but it works for them. Fine.
  • Get boxes without lids (or take the lids off yours). My vet told me that since cats have a much more sensitive sense of smell than people, that a lot of the time they’ll go outside the box because the smell is too overwhelming inside.
  • Clean it A LOT (or in your case, get your husband to clean it a lot). A lot of cats don’t like to step on their own…. business…. Can’t really blame them.
  • Look at products like Fel-A-Way which is a phermone dispenser that plugs into your wall in the area that the cat has been “inappropriately eliminating” (to use the words of my vet). It basically dispenses happy hormones for the kitty and calms them down from whatever anxiety they’re feeling that’s making them go outside the box. My mom uses it for her cat who sprays and it works wonders. One of my cats was peeing outside the box and that’s what my vet recommended using.
  • Please don’t lock your cats into the crawl space. That just makes me sad. If you think they’d be better off with your mom, give them to her and leave it be. It sounds like they’re having some behaviour issues, so putting them through two major changes of environment would be pretty stressful for them.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1 cat for each box is a fabulous rule. Cleaning it EVERY.SINGLE.DAY is also really important for finiky cats. My parents have 3 and one of them will not use the box if there is anything in them. My own kitty will only go when I use the cheap litter. She doesn’t like the scoopable (my vet said the dust probably aggravates her). Also its seems like they have a very stressful time with going potty as a result of the issues you have had. I would suggest moving the box to a quiet place away from everything. Purchase a screen or something to put in front of the box and don’t use a lid anymore. You can put a towl around the base of the box or purchase a rug to helpd with accidents and cleanup.

Also like you mentioned before its really not a good idea to change the liter being pregnant. Is there anyone that can help you?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Daisys4U: I think you need to talk to your vet and address this behavioural issue with the cats rather than just living with it and your solution being locking them away when you have guests over. That seems a bit ostrich in the sand to me…

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Daisys4U: Are they both fixed?

Hitting them and stowing them in a crawl space will do NOTHING to help your situation.

Have they both been vet checked recently? Have you cleaned all their accidents with an enzyme cleaner to be sure they can’t still “smell” their urine?

Can you “retrain” both of them separately (i.e. put one in a room with his litter box and the other in a room with hers, keep them separated until they are both consistently using the litter box again).

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Daisys4U:Your cats should have yearly vaccinations, especially the one who’s an outdoor cat. Secondly, I think you should contemplate just giving ONE of your cats to your mom and see what happens. If every time I went to the bathroom Darling Husband stood outside the door and then beat me senseless when I came out, I’m pretty sure I would find somewhere else to go pee too!!! Not all cats are compatible just like not all people are compatible.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@Daisys4U: Maybe you should find them new loving homes (separated from each other). I had a similar situation I had an older female cat and a younger male cat and the male cat would always attack her for no reason I mean I’m talking fur flying. This went on for years and finally I just gave the female cat to my sister because she just slept all day, but she was just too old to be attacked like that and I kept the male cat. 

Regardless of what happens YOU SHOULD NEVER HIT A CAT. EVER. or lock them away. The fact that you are even considering it is reason enough to permanently separate them, it sounds like both of your cats are unhappy and I can see why. If it’s not working out find one or both a home so that your cats can be happy.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@Daisys4U: I think that’s a good idea and at least you know where your kitty is going and that he will be happy. I’m sure you will see a change in your female cat once you remove the male cat. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

You’ve gotten some great advice.  Hitting the cats won’t work, it will only make them afraid of you.  I understand you’re frustrated, though, which I certainly would be as well …you are dealing with a stressful issue, during a stressful time, and your husband is not helping.  Pregnant women should not change litter boxes because of the risk of toxoplasmosis.  This website has some advice, including what to do if you a pregnant and MUST change the litter box.  http://www.cdc.gov/healthypets/pregnant.htm It also recommends keeping the cats indoors.

Why is your husband so unwilling to clean the litter box anyway?  Is it because he doesn’t like that cats?  I just keep thinking, “What’s he going to do about messy diapers?”  

If your female is urinating that much, has she been to a vet to rule out a medical problem like diabetes?  Since you haven’t vaccinated either of them in quite some time, I would assume not.  A trip to the vet for at least the female, but preferably both cats would be advisable.  If no medical problem is found, try the Feliaway.  If that doesn’t work, I would look into finding a home for one of the cats, or both of them separately.  I don’t normally advocate rehoming an animal just because of a litter box problem, but since you are doing this essentially alone and will soon have a new baby, it might be healthiest for that new baby to rehome one or both cats if the vet trip and Feliaway do not remedy the situation. 

Good luck!

 

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