(Closed) Cat’s out of the bag – Photographer revealed on Facebook we’re pre-planning!!

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Its okay! Only the serious Facebook stalkers will be on top of things like that 🙂

Post # 4
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think it will be fine.  Hopefully your Facebook friends will understand your situation, but I think that you phrased your response to their inquiries perfectly!  I think that even if word spreads a little bit, people will be understanding about why you waited when you decide to announce the news.

Post # 5
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

oh oh, I am sure the situation will be easy to put the fire out though with all the people trying to figure out. sure your waiting for the ring, but it doesnt mean you cant start planning – and h opefully people understand that.

and maybe let your photographer know any other details that they would like to discuss should be done over private message lol

Post # 6
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yeah, I would follow up with the photographer on how to correctly use FB.  I personally think that FB is the devil.  But we are all still on it.

Post # 7
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Sounds like you handled it well! But I agree, better fololow up with the photog and let her know to keep things hush hush!

Post # 8
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

She’s obviously new to Facebook… everybody knows you don’t post anything on the wall until the relationship status has been changed!   I wouldn’t worry about it — most people probably didn’t see it and hopefully those who do now know will keep quiet until the big reveal!

Post # 9
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ha, ditto, she’ll learn FB Etiquette soon enough!

Sounds like you handled it well though. You could also say something like "of course we’re getting married SOMEday" so it’s not like a right away kinda thing. No big deal. 

Post # 10
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I think it sounds like you can keep this pretty contained.  If people ask you about it, you could jsut say that you’re doing some pre-planning, but don’t have anything official to announce yet.  I  know a lot of people look into booking vendors before they’re actually engaged.  We actually scouted locations a few weeks before we were official, because we knew we’d want to book immediately to get our first choice.

Post # 11
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

ugh….Facebook (and Myspace…especially creepy creepy Myspace) are the devil…but, I think you will be okay! it seems you did cleanup pretty quickly of the situation…And early congratulations to you, by the way! 🙂

Post # 12
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

yeah thats the problem with facebook; my fiance told me to stay low key til he told my his family he didnt want people to find out through facebook


so I had to keep warning my friends and family not to post

Post # 13
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

My cousin found out through my Facebook and then my she told my Aunt and Uncle… I felt SO BAD!

Post # 14
369 posts
Helper bee

I love how he brought the Twilight book into it. It’s okay, as long as your friends don’t say anything. I guess you should have a little chat (facebook chat?) with your photographer and tell her it is NOT ok to post private information on your wall!

Post # 15
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I agree! I think that only the people who actually said something to you are the ones who know. If you’ve asked them to keep it quiet, they will, and only the FB stalkers will see.

Definitely don’t worry and don’t let it ruin your FI’s dream proposal to you

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