Post # 1
So my husband and I are in the begining stages of thinking/planning to move out of our condo and into either his parents or my parents house (both in the same town). We would rent out our condo and try to save as much money as possible for 6ish months to use s a downpayment on a future home.
The diliema: We have two cats (Salem and Snowy) which feel like children to me. If we go to his parents house, we would have to lock them in the room all day long. My inlaws have a boston terrier who is more like a pit bull and would eat our cats if he got the chance…
If we move to my parents house, the cats would be free to roam…but my parents are kinda weird and my husband would feel geeked out right away as usual. (Yes, I agree, my parents are on the weird end, but I’m used to it)
So what do we do? Options we have:
1. Move to my inlaws and have the cats live in a bedroom for the next 6 months.
2. Move to my parents house and have a husband get be sick of the inlaws, or
3. Have the kities live at my parents house while we live at my inlaws and visit them a lot?? But i would be lonely and miss them not sleeping with me at night…
Post # 4
@Luckygir15: Why is your husband uncomfortable with your parents? I would say live with your parents..
Post # 5
@Luckygir15: please, please, please do not take your cats to a home where a dog would eat them. What if they got out of the room or your dog got into their room somehow? that would be devistating. Please do not put them in that situation. live with your parents…. Its the best thing for everyone.
Post # 6
I agree with the post above. U would feel horrible if something happened to them. Either live with your parents or leave them at your parents. Its going to either be uncomfortable or lonely but its the best thing for them.
Post # 7
Cats safety trumps discomfort/unhappiness. Husband’s discomfort with inlaws (and potentially damaging those relationships permanently as a result) trumps cats’ (of not being with you)/you (of missing cat).
Post # 9
To add to this, if we went with option 1, we would add a secondary door to the hallway to prevent the dog from getting to the door, or prevent the cats from escaping etc… anyways, a second door just in case..
@MsNarwhal: My parents are WEIRD, always have been. I’m not arguing that! They lie to me, make up weird conspiracy theories…just plain bonkers to us! LOL, its amusing, but tiring to the brain.
Post # 10
@Luckygir15: I am sorry but an extra door is not going to help much. There are many times where I have wanted to keep my cat out of a room and he runs so fast. Plus, imagine how unhappy your cats will be cooped up in a room. Option 2 or 3 is fine but please do not do option one. Never put your cats at danger like this please
Post # 11
I say option 2. I don’t think option 3 would work unless your parents really like your cats. They may feel like you are just using them to care for your pets or they may feel like it’s too much work for them. Even if you stopped by frequently, they would be the ones who would have to live with the cats day in and day out.
Post # 12
I would leave the cats at your parents and live with your inlaws.
Even with a second door you don’t want to risk your cats safety.
Post # 13
I would live with your parents.
And as a bonus, your husband has more opportunity to get used to them, wierd quirks and all!
Post # 14
Wow, tough situation. It seems as though both of your are uncomfortable with your parents. I would live with DH’s parents and keep the cats at my parents house, as long as your parents are ok with it.
Think about what your cats like to do now…do they like to sit ina window most of the day? Where do they usually sleep when you are not home? Do you mind having a litter box, kitty food, etc where you will be sleeping if the cats live at Darling Husband parents? Would your “weird” parents use them against you if you don’t live at home? things to consider when deciding.
I moved home with my mom until I get married. Fiance has his own place and 2 cats. My mom has 3 dogs and 2 cats. I moved my cat in with Fiance until we’re married so kitty only has moving shock once. He’s adjusted. I miss him terribly but I visit a lot. Cats are adaptable. But be sure if you have them with you at Darling Husband parents that the dog stays away from them.
I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 15
So my Darling Husband said he would do option #2, but I feel like we need to talk it out more. Options #1 is out, I would be too nervous they would get out and it would suck haveing a litter box in our bedroom! (It is an automatic scoopfree one, but still, eww)
My parents LOVE the cats. (Animal people) and we stayed a week with them a month ago when all of Massachusetts lost power. The cats hated it for a day, but by day 3, they had a good lay of the land and loved all the windows and endless amounts of stuff to nock over and play with. I think option 2 would work, it would just be ackward. My Darling Husband and i are wicked busy with work full time and school full time at night, so we would see my parents sparingling anyways.
Post # 16
First, pit bulls are not a vicious breed by nature. I used to own a pitt mix and she was much more sweet and docile than my pug (I still sort of consider her “mine” – my ex kept her), and I am also very involved in pit bull groups. More people tend to have problems with chiuauas being vicious than pit bulls.
But I digress. Is it possible to split your time between your parents and your in laws? I can’t imagine having to not live with my dogs. It was hard enough with my pit, but if I couldn’t have either? He is with me every night and rarely leaves my side when I am sick (right now I’m on the couch and he is snoring beside me). How weird are your parents? What does your fiance prefer? Personally, I could not live somewhere with my animal where another animal may hurt them and in addition they’d be stuck in just one room. I say if nothing else, put the cats at your parents where they will have room to roam. Also, thank you for thinking of the cats and not just doing what I hear of so many jerk pet owners doing “Oh well, ccan’t have the animals, drop them off at the pound!” sort of thing.