So re-reading the original post, after reading it yesterday and comments, this is the conclusion I’m coming to.
He started the job while you were seperated, heading toward divorce. At that point in time, I’m guessing divorce was the option and reconciliation hadn’t been mentioned. So he probably said “I’m divorced” as oppsed to “I’m about to get divorced”. Trust me, all it does is lead to questions when you phrase it that way. Originally I’m sure it was intended to just open and close all discussion on that matter.
If it makes you feel better, when I was married to my ex husband, he refused to wear his ring. He didn’t want to tell people he was married, wouldn’t add me onto his insurance at work, not because it was more expensive, but because there was too much paperwork (his words, not mine). Then later he “lost” his ring. Two years after the divorce, I found it under the dresser. Or in a drawer, I don’t remember now. So maybe that’s why I feel like I do, because there wasn’t even a hint of divorce or seperation when he was doing that, so I guess, like I said, thats why I feel like I do.
Like I mentioned in my earlier response, when we did end up separating going to divorce (he moved out, we had to file and wait 2 months to go to court to get it finalized), the people at work obviously knew what was going on. I had just told them we were really happy, getting ready to start a family, etc (on a Friday) then Monday, when someone asked how things were, I had to say “well, he moved out over the weekend and we’re getting a divorce”. I worked one on one with these people, so yeah I didn’t have to say anything, but when you’re in a room all day with someone, and they are your only outlet to the “real” world, things start coming out. Then, when we attempted a reconcilliation, they knew that, and then a week later “well, it didn’t work, he didn’t want to, we’re divorcing anyway” I looked insane. While it was being finalized, I ended up quitting that job and starting a new one, which I had to take off a day to go to court to get it finalized, as well as go to the DMV and SS office to get my name changed on those (therefore telling my job my new name) so they knew… looking back, I shouldn’t have bothered and told everyone I was already divorced. Because it opened up nothing but questions from everyone. Especially when they found out he didn’t know we were divorced…. the court was supposd to notify him of the final decree (he didn’t have to go to court) by mail, but never told him the court day or anything or mailed him a copy, so a couple months later he called me to ask if a court date was set and I was like, dude… we’re divorced already. Have been for two months”. It got a laugh from some people, but others it just make me look like a cold bitch for not even telling him we were divorced. So yes, I am biased on this topic.