(Closed) caught FI looking at teen images – what do I do?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@EmbarrassedBee123:  I think it’s pretty normal. Almost alwys, the girls on those sites are 18, they just look younger. 

 

Also, you guys are 24? That’s really not that far from the teenage bracket.

 

I kind of thik you’re overreacting.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you overracted. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

Honestly, “teen” porn usually just means a young face, a slender body and small breasts. 

I hate to ask the obvious: but is that you?  Do you have a young face, a slender body and small breasts?  

I think its not bad if he’s looking up girls that are “similar” to you, but they are classified as teen or whatever. 

I mean if you’re a blonde, and he’s looking up “latino big booty bitches” then thats a little off putting… but I honestly think he was probably looking up “teen” girls because they look like what he sexually likes (YOU!) 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I get being weirded out, but I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially since you were both still in high school not that long ago. When he is in his 30’s and still looking at teens that would totally weird me out. But, our society is so focused on age it doesn’t really surprise me.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Also, people can get off on a lot of stuff. It doesn’t mean he’s going to go raiding a high school.

 

So will I still be overreacting when we’re 35 and he’s looking at high school girls?

 

Yeah, in my opinion.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Details aside, he’s doing something you’re uncomfortable with, and those feelings are valid.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Baimee:  that’s exactly what I was thinking. you aren’t that far removed from that age group – and I think that’s a common guy ‘fantasy’ (naughty schoolgirl, anyone?), I wouldn’t be too worried unless you think there is something more going on.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t have any words of wisdom. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for you guys and to send some comfort vibes your way. I don’t blame you for being freaked, I would have. But, I admittedly have issues with porn in general.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i wouldnt worry about it. porn is just fantasy–maybe he has a fantasy about sleeping with a girl in high school sure but i agree with eagle bee—he probably wants to look at girls who look like you!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@eagle:  LoL, that cracked me up!

 

@EmbarrassedBee123:  I think that A LOT of porn sites have “teen” in the name or “teen” categories. I think his story of being redirected to the sites is pretty likely, I think that’s pretty common.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.

 

BUT if it bothers you, you need to have an honest convo with him about it that is as emotionless as possible.  

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think as a 20-something year old, it’s not that strange. But yeah, as a 35 year old, that’s inappropriate. His tastes should change as he grows older. 

 

PP had a good point: do you have similar features to those girls?

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