Caught fiancé pleasuring himself…. multiple times.

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, if it’s bothering you I would say talk about it, it could just be thy his sex-drive is higher than yours and it’s not that much of a problem? Just approach it in a way that lets him know you’re not angry but be honest about the way that it’s mKing you feel about yourself. Even if you think it’s irrational he has to be your support system so give him the opportunity to be that for you and i’m sure you’ll feel better! I know it’s awkward but you have to talk to him I’m afraid Xxx 

Post # 47
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

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duchessgummybunns :  

How is he lying??? (and “pathologically”????)

He wakes up and jumps in the shower when shes on her morning run. He hasnt announced it coz he wants some privacy which married people are allowed. Its not a big secret and calling it pathological lying is a huge stretch. 

Post # 48
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

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bridetobe1993 :  

OP I tried to put myself in your shoes and still not sure. I tried to put myseld in your hubbies shoes and that still didnt help…..

Im leaning towards not saying anything because I feel the issue is you feel insecure and just need reassurance its just a morning wood/stress release thing (and maybe pick a different time). But you will only get that by talking to him.

I guess wait it out until you feel you must say something? then approach it as nicely as possible.

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper

Unless it’s cutting into your sexual time together I don’t see the issue. If he was turning you down and then having his fun that would be a problem. But it doesn’t sound like this is the case, so I’d chill.

Post # 50
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

OP it sounds like your feeling insecure about yourself and you’re feeling like your husband is less attracted to you because he is masturbating. I would bet money that his pleasuring himself has nothing to do with you. He’s probably been doing it since adolescence and will continue to do it because it feels good! Perhaps next time you catch him, try offering to finish him off with a blow job!😉

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