(Closed) Caught in Love Triangle. Need advice.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have been in a similar situation. Guy no 1 dumped me after treating me like crap. I was heart broken. I meet Guy no 2 and Guy no 1 comes cralling back. I denied no 1 and am now happily engaged to guy no 2 :).

A guy can only treat you like crap so many times before you draw a line. I vote new guy.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You’re only 25.  Get rid of the old guy!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Your Boyfriend or Best Friend has been stringing you along for 7 years and treats you like crap, dump him. You said he doesn’t know about new guy but maybe he’s heard through the grape vine that you are out with friends and not sitting around moping like he thought you’d do and he realizes that you are better off without him and NOW he wants you.

I don’t think you should jump in to a relationship right now with new guy but I would end things with your current Boyfriend or Best Friend and have a clean break (no cheating, no drama) just end it and tell him you gave it your best for 7 years and he gave nothing and gives you nothing but disrespect and heartache.

After your breakup you should wait a bit and then see where things go with the new guy, he obviously likes you to make you feel so wonderful and you deserve that. Not to be treated like garbage with your ex, believe me I’ve been there current Boyfriend or Best Friend will say anything to get you back and treat you like gold for awhile then he’ll drop and act and go right back to his assholish ways.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@peachacid:  I agree

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You have given the old bf plenty of chances. I think the new guy deserves at leat one. 🙂

And even more then that YOU deserve a chance at happiness.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Seven years is a long time, so take a real look at your relationship, good times and bad. Right now it’s probably easier to just see the bad because he’s driving you nuts- but give it a real look. Think about whether or not you only stayed with him that long because it was comfortable, or if you had genuine feelings for this guy. 

If he really treated you like crap more than he did a good person, then you should cut your losses and invest in the new guy. If you’re confident that you can spend your life with this first guy in a healthy and stable relationship, give him a shot to at least explain himself.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Tell Guy 1 No. He just wants what he can’t have, but Guy 2 sounds like he treats you right!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I vote guy 2.

You can go back to Guy 1, but you have Guy 2 in your head now. This happened to me. Guy 1 and I ended up getting engaged, but I NEVER forgot about Guy 2. It effectively poisoned Guy 1 and I’s relationship. If he had proposed when we were younger, I think we could have made a go of it, but later, after meeting Guy 2, my heart just wasn’t into it.

Guy 2 and I are getting married in March of 2014.

Even if your Guy 2 isn’t the guy you’re meant to be with, your guy 1 can’t be meant for you either if you can’t give him your whole heart. Don’t go back with him if you still feel anything about the other one. All you will be doing is wasting everybody’s time.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Pick the new guy!!!  Not many guys would hang around with the old guy still somewhat in the picture.  You are not throwing away 7 years; the old guy had 7 years to decide he wasn’t ready to be with you and now that you finally left him he’s lonely without you.  Move on with the new guy who seems to really dig you.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Guy 2! As a PP said, your ex has had plenty of chances. It’s time for you to give this new guy one. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Here’s my advice – the two of you took a MONTH LONG break.  You were HAPPY AND FINE WITHOUT HIM.  You found NEW ROMANCE.  When the two of you fought, he would treat you like crap.  Dump him.  Even if you don’t go for it with the new guy, even if you take things slow.. the only reason why you’re even considering the old guy from your own post is because you have history (“I can’t throw 7 years away”).  Yes, you can.  He did it, you can, too.  Tell him to stop calling, block his number, cut him out of your life.  You don’t miss him, you just miss what’s comfortable.  It was HIS mistake and now it’s HIS loss to let you go for a long enough time that you found someone new to crush on.  Move on.  Good luck!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Go for the new guy! and leave your old bf who left you alone when you were crying and alllll of the other emotional baggage in the past

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You’re only 25, you both basically have grown up together, and it sounds like Boyfriend or Best Friend #1 is your first love, so it’s hard to walk away from that, but it sounds like you have grown apart and the time apart was good for you both, but I would move on and take a chance on BF#2….you have your whole life ahead of you, take this time to enjoy it.

 

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