(Closed) CAUTION: Major Ring Shopping Vent Ahead!!!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@TorTor09:  Just wondering – how come you guys only see each other every so often? Are you going to move in together once you are married?

What does your FH say about his mother giving him advice about your ring?  I assume you’ve talked to him about this since you knew she told him to get you a smaller sized diamond.  What’s his take on it?

Post # 4
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Could you go order it together the next time he comes for a visit?

Post # 5
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah, my fiance literally just finalized my ring LAST NIGHT on conference call with me & our jeweler. I was starting to freak out, as our wedding is in less than 2 weeks, but the jeweler assured me that the work is done very quickly.

What is his reason for not going to the jeweler of your choice? Seems like it would simplify things.

Post # 6
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s very frustrating when people try to be so involved with wedding things especially when you feel that your mind is made up. Try to remember that she is probably coming from a good place and is sincerely trying to help. 

“You should only get her a 1/3-1/2 carat diamond.”

This to me says that she’s saying you should go for quality over size. That’s a good suggestion (IMO) if you were going the diamond route, but doesn’t really apply to amora, so disregard it! 

Just because someone states their opinion doesn’t mean you have to agree! Make it very clear to Fiance what you want, don’t try to hint or be vague. I think a lot of guys will consult with their mothers or sisters or friends to get a woman’s opinion. It’s a big deal and I’m sure she’s very excited. and CONGRATULATIONS!

By The Way I think an amora is a great choice can’t wait to see what you get πŸ™‚

Post # 7
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Talk to him. He needs to know your frustrations (in a nice way) and tell him how hurt you are that his mother is making this her decision. You will be disapointed if you don’t communicate and you might even find out how come he hasn’t purchased the ring yet.

Post # 8
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

mother in laws are always tricky.  remember that he is stuck somewhere in the middle between you to.  and honestly, i found three or four rings that were “the one” and i couldn’t help but love more than anything.  So you will probably love your ring because of what it represents more than anything.


ring shopping should be happy and fun and stress free, so try not to sweat the small stuff.  IF you want your marraige to last, that part has to be way more important than the ring!


good luck though!

Post # 11
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ooh what a gorgeous setting! I hope he gets it for you.

I am sure he is frustrating you, but at least he sounds like he has had enough from his mother so he wont listen to her anymore!

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