CBC – but husband pressured me to having kids!

posted 4 years ago in No Kids
Post # 3
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hellolittleowl:  Whaaat? Go to school and go be a doctor. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

*HUGS* Sorry you had to give up on your dreams.  When I first started dating my husband, I told him under no circumstances would I ever be having kids and that if he wanted kids, he needed to go elsewhere.  I think wanting/not wanting children is a dealbreaker for a lot of couples.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Treeline:  +1

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Thats really sad. Dont have any advice but I hope this is a lesson to others that these discussions should happen wayyy before an engagement.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hellolittleowl:  I’m so sorry, that sucks. I can imagine what an internal conflict that would be – loving your child but also knowing it’s not what you want. (Of course you want HIM, but not this lifestyle.)

I used to think I never wanted kids, I was positive. Then something happened, and now I can’t wait! But, I still remember the feeling of like “Why would you want children?!” So I know what you mean.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I put myself through college while being a flat broke single parent. I now bring home a good 6 figure income and feel totally satisfied in my career, and I have a pretty freaking awesome kid, too. What, exactly, is preventing you from going to school to achieve your dreams? It may be hard at times, but the struggle to make it work is worth it.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@hellolittleowl:  Who says you can’t be a doctor?  I know plenty of friends who are female doctors with kids.

I understand you are unhappy, but work with what you have now.  Sit down with your husband, explain you feel trapped and want to go back to school, and work out a daycare plan. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am not sure why you think you cant go to school and still be a doctor if that is your dream? Is it a financial barrier?

Not all doctors work crazy hours. What kind of doctor did you want to be?

Post # 12
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Honey bee

@hellolittleowl:  You might not want to do med school now, but there are plenty of other things you can do to help you feel more fulfilled. Like going back to get your bachelors, or working on a different carerr path in the medical field that wont require 80 hour weeks.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hellolittleowl:  But your kid is a toddler now, pretty soon he will be at school full time where you won’t be watching him anyways. Med school takes a while to get through, he won’t need a mother at home forever.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My mother came to Canada with no knowledge of English, had two babies that she was left alone with for six months a year as my dad works overseas, with no family and no friends for support , and did her undergraduate degree and then became a doctor (While still being an amazing mom i might add ). Where there is a will there is a way – you can still do it!

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