- 2 years ago
I am hoping to get some advice or if anyone could shed some light on how to fix things.
i got pregnant shortly after being engaged. I didn’t realize I was pregnant until 10 weeks in. Originally, I was thinking I just postpone the wedding until after the baby was born. The dad’s side preferred us to sign before the baby was born.
I guess I can say I mistakeninly took this as we just sign with a small group of people. I can say I just thought my friend did a signing with friends and family at home and a reception a year later.
i thought that would be the same idea. I just called it a signing party with some family and a few close friends to help out, which were the bridesmaids and groomsmen we have selected from before.
i felt guilty and unpleased after the signing and ceremony. I didn’t see the consequences of not having some of the other friends and family that I would want there. I was planning on having a larger reception after the baby was born so I would have more time for planning. I also didn’t want to increase my stress load because I just wanted the baby to be healthy.
now we are planning for the celebration of marriage and new family. I am starting to get mixed feelings – like is this ok or am I over spending when I should be saving the money for a larger place or expenses for the baby on mat leave.
My husband thinks and feels it is ok. He is looking forward to it and I am having mixed feelings of how I’ll feel with everything.
My family from the ceremony had given me some cash as gifts already. Which is why I felt bad with no proper reception.
i just feel like this party now is not quite a celebration and I am having cold feet if I were to be center of attention. I am happy with our little family and close friends also seem to want to attend. I guess it’s just the friends that weren’t aware of my situation and would be invited because I would like them to attend but am not certain they will make the time and effort to do so since they weren’t aware of the situation. I will still let them know when I forward them an invitation. I guess hope for the best and prepare for the worst ….
I also booked a larger venue which cost quite a bit…. 🤦🏻♀️