(Closed) Cell Phone Argument… Yep….

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: get a cell phone contract since you obviously can't stay on top of the prepaid option
    do what you want, just make sure you have an active phone from now on : (49 votes)
    74 %
    leave the man alone stardust, let him have his prepaid phone even though he sucks at keeping it on : (8 votes)
    12 %
    i like unicorns : (7 votes)
    11 %
    obligatory other (explain) : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @stardustintheeyes:  my guy does the same thing, he hasn’t had minutes for a month now, but he doesn’t like being attached to technology. So I just learn to get used to it. But we don’t have  kids, either. BUT he had learned to call from someone’s phone and check in with me when he isn’t home and reachable. 

    Post # 4
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve had this argument with both my Darling Husband as well as my father. It happened several times when I was a kid super sick at school where they couldn’t reach my mom because she was busy with her students (she’s a teacher), and I knew it was my dad’s day off but he just wouldn’t ever pick up the freaking phone. He just wouldn’t even bother turning it on, and would say that he didn’t answer his phone because it’s his day off and then would go on the spiel about people being too dependent on technology. Uh, I was his kid and sick and didn’t really care about his feelings on technology!

    Now I’m pregnant and get upset when Darling Husband doesn’t answer his phone because he tends to leave it in the bedroom, close the door, then go into the computer room on the opposite end of the house and turn on music. Um, hello, what if I went into labor?! And it did actually happen where my car broke down once, and I had to wait like an hour in the freezing cold for AAA because he wasn’t answering his phone.
     

    So while I have no useful advice since I’ve had zero luck with this, I sympathize! If you freak out about it I’m sure he’ll jsut shut down, but I’d point out that you are lucky to have technology where you can immediately reach him in an emergency and would appreciate it if he could use it for you and your child.

    Post # 5
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    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @stardustintheeyes:  You’re right and he’s the one out of line.

    If he doesn’t want to depend on technology, he should get rid of his cell phone entirely. If he does want a cell phone, he needs to be responsible about it i.e. pay before the damn thing expires. It’s not rocket science. He could set up an alert on his work or home computer to remind him a day or two before it expires. If you’re feeling generous, maybe you could set up the reminder for him and then tell him to do it (if that’s what it takes).

    Yes, people survived without cell phones in the past… but some didn’t. A cell phone can save a life. Since he has one and has indicated that that’s a reliable way to contact him, he needs to ensure it’s in working order. He’s a big boy.. I think he can handle the responsibility. Or get a damn contract.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @stardustintheeyes:  ermahgerd.  Sometimes my Fiance forgets to turn his cell phone from vibrate to noise make-r after he gets out of work and it drives ME FREAKIN’ NUTS!  Because he KNOWS I often try to get a hold of him immediately after work to tell him I’m running errands/dinner plans/maybe I’m dead on the side of the road and he’ll never know because his phone was on freakin’ VIBRATE!!!!

     

    Dear Mr. Stardust if you can’t remind yourself to be a grownup and pay your bills be a grownup and buy a normal phone! 

    Totally feel your frustration Ms. Stardust!

    Post # 9
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Me and my SO have a daughter together and I FREAK out when he doesn’t answer his phone. He tends to leave it on vibrate all. the. time. I wouldn’t get so irritated if it wasn’t such a common occurence. I totally agree with you, he needs to be reachable at all times especially because you have a child together. 

    Post # 10
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @stardustintheeyes:  well if he can’t even check in then he needs to keep it on all the time and start being more responsible. I’d want my partner to know I’d be reachable (even somewhat) in an emergency. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Uh, Mr. Stardust needs to get with the program and make sure he pays before the phone gets cut off!  I would be livid if there were an emergency.  Yes, we didn’t depend on technology in the past, but hello, it’s 2012 the last time I checked, lol.  Maybe you two can be on a family plan so you don’t have to worry about it anymore.

    Post # 13
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    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @stardustintheeyes:  If HE doesn’t want to be dependent upon his phone that’s fine but he has YOU and did I read something about a CHILD that are dependent upon HIM, and if he’s out of the house you are therefore dependent on HIM to HAVE his G-D CELL PHONE!  ON and in WORKING order.

    Post # 14
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would just be concerned that if he is having troubles paying the prepaid ontime that he might have the same issues with a contract… and then that would be a hit on his credit 🙁 Just something to consider!

    Post # 15
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    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I own a cell phone, it does not own me…I answer it when I feel like it and when I don’t, I won’t…I’m in the same camp as Fiance on this one. 

    People are too dependent on technology and even if you did have a cell phone contract, you still can’t make him into the type of person that’s going to check or even carry his phone with him all the time…so it’s a total waste of money and solves nothing.

    Having a child doesn’t mean you have to be accessable 100% of the time, in fact that’s an unrealistic expectation for any person to have, we grew up without them and everything worked out fine. 

    If you can’t get him on the phone, he can’t criticize you for using your best judgement without his input, and either he’ll be fine with that since he trusts you OR he’ll get a little more connected and be part of the decision making team in the future.

    Post # 16
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Oh! and depending on his pre-paid carrier there are options that have the amount directly taken out of his bank each month (Boost Mobile does this for instance)

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