Post # 1
I have read several posts and I what has me a bit confused is the fact that true this is a wedding website but there are occasions when topics are discussed that are not wedding related. If they became heated I think that is part of expressing your opinion. They may not show tack and others may get caught up in the moment and say something that was not kind at that moment but that is what a discussion is (a difference of opinions).
What I find to be censorship is when the discussion gets heated the monitors of the site decide to close the post.
Post # 3
I think it is frustrating, and it silences people, but this site is 100% dedicated to everyone being SUPER nice to each other. When people aren’t nice, people complain, and threads are shut down. It’s unfortunate, but it serves to make the boards pretty friendly, if sometimes frustrating.
I think a better solution would be to have a moderator jump into the thread, say something like, “Please remember that we strive to have polite and friendly conversations regardless of disagreements,” and then prevent anyone from commenting on the thread for, say, five minutes. That would cause people to stop, take a breath, and then continue the conversation in a hopefully more respectful manner.
Post # 4
Post # 5
The mods can close any thread they want. It is the deletion of posts which constitutes censorship. But by agreeing to the TOS, you are at their mercy.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@the boss of you: +1 I agree that when a topic is closed is when it becomes censorship. I think anyone can pretty much say whatever they want on here but it does need to be in a constructive manner and sensitive to differing thoughts and feelings. Politely disagreeing with someone is one thing, but calling someone a bitch, saying their wedding is trashy or tacky or just saying “if you do this, or don’t do that you are selfish, lame, or a bridezilla” is completely stepping over boundries. I wouldn’t put up with someone saying that to me in the real world so I would hope that I wouldn’t have to put up with it on a website. Its just a matter of people thinking twice about how they word something in a post. But people also need to understand that how a person intends a post to be read and how a person actually reads the post can be a touchy subject too. Sarcasm doesn’t exactly post well, neither does dry humor. I’m a pretty sarcastic person in real life and there are many times I have to re-read, re-write and even sometimes just completely nix a reply because it may come off in a way I don’t intend it to.
Post # 7
I don’t consider it censorship. They’re not saying you can’t have an opinion, you just can’t post it on this private site. Membership here is a privilege. We agreed to the TOS so we should try to abide by them.
I think I’m a bit of a stickler because I’m a mod on another site. Being a mod is a thankless job.
Post # 8
I don’t think it is censorship. You can generally express any idea that you want, as long as you are not a jerk about it. I think its nice that civility is enforced.
Post # 9
@the boss of you: I totally agree. The owner of the website can decide what is and isn’t allowed. If a user doesn’t like the rules, he or she can go to another web site.