Post # 1
While we’re not even TTC yet, I worry about being the center of attention when I am pregnant. My plan has been to hold off on telling people as long as possible, partially to avoid the fuss, and partially due to fear of miscarriages. I figure that instead of having 30+ weeks of people fussing, I could maybe get it down to 20. DH and I were discussing this, and he thinks that holding off might make me/us more the center of attention.
Which way do you think? Why? How can I avoid this?
Post # 3
Honestly, you can’t. You can try holding it off, but people tend to pick up on these things pretty fast.
Post # 4
ditto to the above.
People like to swoon over pregnant ladies, that’s just how it is. You’ll learn to deal with it…or you better, because people love to swoon even more over ladies with little babies! lol
Post # 5
@guitargirl: can’t. I tried this. I try to downplay my pregnancy ALL THE TIME and it doesn’t work. People are obsessed with pregnancies.
Also: there was no way I could hide it until 20w. I was small and short torsoed so right now my belly sits straight out and i’m only 22w (tomorrow). I tihnk you can make it to 16w..even 18w maybe.
Post # 6
People that love you are going to be happy for you and in turn make a fuss, whether you like it or not. Just remind yourself of how lucky you are to be surrounded by so many wonderful people.
Post # 7
I hid until 18w (publicly, and was plenty sick of hiding by then despite being exceptionally nervous) and honestly I think I thought the same as you and don’t get me wrong there are lots of people around us that are excited, but people care less than I thought (in terms of feeling like the ctr of attn!) and don’t want to talk about it all the time like I thought people would. I work in a very, very chatty gossipy office and didn’t give anyone anything to chew on.
It might be the only thing you’re thinking about, but not what others are thinking about! I was pretty forward this time a year ago saying I hoped to have babies soon after marriage, and surely people tried to be onto me and watching for preggo and we shocked many people with how far along we were when we finally began telling people!
Totally doable in some ways, maybe not if your a socialite wine-o, or have a job where it’s harder to hide! It’s easy to keep it a secret if you really want it to be! It was very hard transitioning from it being a secret to telling people, and it still seems like I am going to be preggo forever, glad we did it the way we did, 22w now.