Post # 1
I just got engaged about a month ago.. it was a total surprise my Fiance asked me to send him pictures of rings that I liked .. and by my surprise it was the ring that he proposed to me with..I would have liked my center stone to be 2carats not 1. I like that my ring is so different but I wanted a larger center stone.. also I feel like the center diamond could be a little more tucked in to the cushion it is high. Anyway he told me about a week after getting engaged I was going to get you a larger stone but when I looked through the magnifying glass their was a black dot that was only visible to the human eye. UGHHH my heart sank.. i was thinking why didn’t you get the larger stone. I see all of theses women with the large engagement ring that I wanted and I dreamed of.. i always wanted a 2 carat or better. How do i tell him w/out hurting his feelings that I want to upgrade my stone?
Post # 3
Wait I am confused, if you saw a black spot under the magnifying glass, that means it is eye clean. Regardless, I don’t know how to bring it up to him, but is it in his budget to be able to purchase a larger stone?
Post # 4
I don’t get why people get hung up on the size of the diamond, and jealous of women with bigger rings. There are far more important things to think about. Imagine, the money he’s saved on the bigger diamond could go towards your wedding budget. Just be happy you’re engaged, and get excited about planning your special day together.
Post # 5
1 carat is already well above the national average. Unless you want a SUPER low quality diamond (or unless your fiance is quite wealthy!), 2 carat is just not real reasonable for the average person. If you want more bling, what about doing some stacking arrangement with your wedding ring. Women on this board have done such cool things with that.
Post # 6
I think you should be happy that your fiance took into consideration the ring you wanted and got what he could afford instead of charging the ring and racking up unnecessary debt. Plus you could also go for the five year upgrade.
Stop comparing yourself to other woman and be happy with the one you got.
Post # 7
I agree with the rest of the ladies. Not to sound harsh, but getting married is not about a ring.
Post # 8
2 carat is certainly not going to equate to being “better” if he’s trying to keep to the budget of the 1 ct he got you. Quite frankly, it’s going to be a pretty dull and lackluster 2 ct unless he’s willing to severly up (double or triple the cost of the 1ct) to be on par quality wise. But if he’s ok with spending that, and you’re really that bothered… there’s no other way to bring it up, but just to directly do so.
Post # 9
OP, try taking pride in the fact that he wanted a high quality diamond for you. My 1ct is actually pretty small among my “circle”, but I’m also the only one with a bright white, sparkly VVS1 – I love that FH wanted me to have the highest quality! My friends with bigger stones always compliment me on how much my diamond sparkles, and even though my stone isn’t as big as theirs, I never feel like my ring is lesser than theirs.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Would you personally be willing to put the *extra* $10,000 it would cost to upgrade your ring from 1 to 2ct? If yes, then do that. If no, then why not?
Post # 11
[comment moderated for personal attack]
Post # 12
If your diamond was .1 carat I might be sympathetic but a 1 carat stone is considered big by many. You should stop being ungrateful and focus on your upcoming wedding and marriage–the important part.
Post # 13
[comment moderated for personal attack]
Post # 14
I understand both points of view. I too would have liked a bigger center stone (who wouldn’t!) but at the end of the day I do love my ring. I had my eye on at least a 1.5ct. Fiance purchased a 1.3ct but you can hardly notice the size difference between the two, it’s very slight. He picked a stone with excellent color, cut, clarity etc. . I saw the appraisal paperwork and it cost a lot more than I imagined so I don’t even want to think of what a good quality 2ct stone would be !!! Can your Fiance afford it? I’m not sure which shape your going for but I’m sure a poor quality 2ct would cost around 12k-15k and a great quality 2ct would cost around 20k-25k. That’s A LOT of $. Are you willing to give up quality for size and have ur Fiance invest more $? That’s the real question. Unless he’s rich … than that’s a different story.
Post # 15
Included 2cts where you can blatantly see inclusions range from 6,000 to 9,000 alone never mind the rest of the setting needing to be bigger …. So it’s all what you consider important and if he can actually afford it eye clean white stone 1ct or included with black specks and yellow hue for 2 ct that probably won’t match the rest of the setting even if there arnt inclusions that you can see
Post # 16
I can understand wanting a bigger center stone. I don’t know where you’re from, but in NY, the average is not 1ct by any means, it’s definitely more. And, it doesn’t seem to be a budgetary issue since he looked at the 2ct to begin with.
However, this is something really important to men, too. When you sent him the rings originally, you should have mentioned you wanted a 2ct, but you didn’t and he went with what he thought would be the perfect ring to make you happy. You shouldn’t mention that you want something bigger. You should love what he got because he thought of you when he purchased it for you. He went to the jeweler and he looked at the stones and he thought about what would make you happiest and picked it. You should love it for that.
I don’t think it’s “greedy and ungrateful” as some of these women have said. It really depends on the standard around. All my friends except 1 have 2ct rings. My friend has a 1ct and she says it made her sad when she saw everyone else’s large diamond rings, but that she absolutely loves the style of her ring and loves that he bought it for her, thinking of her.
As for the appraisals, they’re all almost double the price actually spent if you went to a good jeweler and got a good deal, so that’s not really a good basis for how much was spent.
Also, other women may have larger stones, but ask yourself what they’re missing out of their relationship that you have in yours. Nothing is perfect, so be happy with what you have and consider a nice wedding band to match it or an upgrade in the future.