Post # 1

Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
hi hive!
so fh and i are not doing a typical ceremony. for one thing it wont be religious, in fact a friend is marrying us. it will have some religious tones but we’re diffferent religions so nothing outright.
we have no children attending or being part of the ceremony so our dogs will take those roles.
we really want to keep the whole thing very “us” but i was hoping you ladies could help me with some of the more basic particulars. namely:
1-i want to walk down the aisle to “come what may”. but its such a pretty song i want to play most of it…is it ok to have the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk down to the same song? there wouldnt be a change in music when I walked down but i’d time it so that i started my walk when the violins swell towards the end. is that ok or would ppl be confused?
2 – does the bridal party stand up the whole ceremony? if not at what point would they sit?
3 – we were getting married in a garden so i’m keeping the ceremony decor very minimal and only hanging some crystals from the tree under which we will be married. the site is beautiful enough in my opinion. for this same reason i dont think i want to give guests rose petals/rice/etc to throw during our recessional. is it ok for them to just clap?
thanks bees!
Post # 3

Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
1. It’s okay to have the same song playing for the entire processional. We did and people weren’t confused.
2. I have only ever seen the bridal party standing during the ceremony.
3. It’s fine not to have people throw things, usually when they do it, it is later at the exit, not during the actual recessional.
Post # 4

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664 posts
Busy bee
I’m getting married in Haiti, and here the bridal party sits. Even the bride and groom! They will walk in and stand one at the end of each row on either side of the aisle. Then when we sit down (after my dad gives me away), they will sit too.
Post # 5

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3081 posts
Sugar bee
1. I think it’s fine to play the same song for both. Probably better than trying to make your walk down the aisle reaaaaallllyyyy slow!
2. In outdoor weddings, I have only ever seen the bridal party standing during the whole ceremony. In church ceremonies, however, they sit for some of it. However that’s not to say that you can’t have them sit if you are concerned for their comfort. Depends on how long your ceremony will be and the atmosphere you will have.
3. It is absolutely fine for them to just clap!
PS I love that you are having your dogs take some of the roles.
Post # 6

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315 posts
Helper bee
1) I see couple do this all the time.
2) Yes, they usually stand with you. They are “your” bridal party, so they stand with you.
3) Most of the couples I work with only having the traditional clapping at the recessional.
4) Love pet friendly weddings!