- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2017
I’m new to Weddingbee and have a bit of a conundrum. Sorry if this is a bit long.
<div>We are going to have our wedding at our home in Georgia in January 2017. The problem has come with the guest list. All told between both of our families and our friends we are looking at 150+ people. That’s overwhelming to me and especially my FH as he has anxiety in bigger crowds where he has to be the center of attention. It also bears mentioning that his entire family (50-60 of them) are traveling to Tennessee in July 2017 for a family reunion/get together/vacation. They did this a couple of years ago and all stayed in the same place. Because of this we feel it’s kind of unfair to ask them to travel twice in the same year. </div>
<div>So our thought became that we are going to have a small ceremony with just our immediate family members (parents, siblings, our kids), about 30 people, in January and then have a Reception/Party in July when his family is in Gatlinburg. I’ll invite my family that’s out of town and of course all of our friends to the July shindig. </div>
<div>Our dilemma has come in the form of invitations. We don’t want family and friends to feel slighted for not being invited to the ceremony, but we feel we need to send them something and it might be too soon to send save the dates for July. I’m thinking we should just send an announcement after the wedding with some wording along the lines of “In a private ceremony, we got married. Come celebrate with us on X date”. FH is ok with that but our moms are being a little stand offish about it. Since our families will be coming from out of town, I want to give them plenty of notice to plan. </div>
<div>This is a second wedding for both of us, and we would like everything to be as easy as possible. I just really don’t want to upset anyone. </div>
<div>As a second question, with the “party” being 6 months after, should we ask for or expect gifts? We haven’t done a formal registry, just a honeyfund for a down payment on our house. Is it appropriate to send the fund information to those being invited to the July event?</div>