(Closed) Ceremony and no reception

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What style wedding and why did you pick this?
    Big ceremony with big reception inviting everyone : (10 votes)
    18 %
    Small wedding followed by a nice dinner then off to a honeymoon : (34 votes)
    62 %
    Big ceremony inviting everyone with no reception then off to honeymoon : (6 votes)
    11 %
    Elope and Honeymoon : (5 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Unless EVERYONE that you plan on inviting lives within an hour of where you would have the ceremony, I would not skip out on a reception.  I would probably not come if I lived further away and knew that there wasn’t at least an afterparty with light snacks.

    Post # 4
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Do you have a lot of out of town guests? If not, how about doing a large ceremony with a cake, punch & champagne reception following (in the same location). Then, you would save money without having to cut your guest list.

    If you won’t miss anyone by having a small intimate ceremony & a small dinner after, then do that!

    Basically, do what makes you happy, as long as you’re not a rude host 😉 I think a large ceremony without a reception would be kind of rude, but other than that, all of your choices sound reasonable!

    Post # 5
    30393 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The only  choice that I think would be questionable taste is having a large ceremony and no reception. That doesn’t mean you have to have seated dinner, dancing etc. You could have an afternoon wedding with a tea following, or a morning wedding with brunch to follow.

    You reallly should consider that your guests would appreciate at least a beverage and a snack following the ceremony.

    Post # 6
    221 posts
    Helper bee

    It sounds like a very small cermony with a meal afterwards would be nice. You don’t have to have a traditional reception. Just make reservations a nice restaurant, and pay for your loved ones to eat. If you want to keep it very small invite just you siblings, parents, and grand parents.

    Post # 7
    2001 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I don’t like the idea of a ceremony (of any size) and no reception whatsoever.  The point of a reception is to thank people from coming out to witness your wedding.  It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate.  As PPs have suggested, you can do a mid-afternoon ceremony followed by a brief reception with cake and champagne for everybody.  Or you can have a more intimate ceremony with just your immediate families and best friends, and treat everyone to dinner at a restaurant afterwards.

    Post # 8
    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    There’s no reason why you can’t do a small ceremony with a light lunch following. I know of a few brides who got married at a church, then hosted a casual lunch in their backyard afterwards. That wouldn’t be terribly expensive, either – a few party subs, some cheese and crackers, and beverages. But I agree w/ PP that you need to provide some sort of snack/drinks after – and be sure to indicate that on the invite, so the out-of-towners know to eat before arriving.

    Post # 9
    4858 posts
    Honey bee

    Small wedding and nice dinner FTW!

    Post # 11
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I had a ceremony and reception, but they weren’t big (67 people). Personally, I like the idea of a small ceremony and restaurant reception. It sounds more intimate and lower stress!

    Post # 12
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Oh! And our rehearsal dinner was 30 people in a private room at a sushi restaurant. It was actually so much fun that it kind of beat out the wedding reception in my book…which I hate to admit, because it cost 1/10th as much!!! Something to keep in mind 🙂

    Post # 14
    507 posts
    Busy bee

    Only you can decide what you truly want to do, but I’d suggest keeping things small based on what you’ve written….  If you’re not sure about going big, even from the start, I almost guarantee that if you do decide to go big, you’ll regret it once you’re caught up in all the decisions, planning, and YES the $$$$.  Save it for your vacay. 🙂

    Post # 15
    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You do not have an option for what we are doing. We are having a simple ten minute early evening garden ceremony (around 125 guests) followed by wedding cake, punch, coffee, etc. Then the next day we are having a HUGE casual pig roast (several hundred guests expected). Two days after the pig roast, we will leave for our honeymoon.

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