Post # 1
We plan to have the ceremony begin at 4pm Concluding at around 5pm, however the Reception does not open until 6pm and that is when the bar packages (5 hours) begins.
There is a bar on site that the guests may wait at and purchase drinks (Ocean Views and Views of Golf Course) however it will be at their own expense… we have organised that instead of having our canapes begin at 6 , the venue will provide the canapes between 5 and 6pm before the official reception begins (as i didnt want my guests getting upset with the wait)
Is it rude to have guests buy their own drinks in that hour until the reception starts? i still feel a bit uncomfortable about it, but it is the only way we can fit all the photos in before the reception without rushing!
Post # 3
@beautifullyboheamian: Why are you having the one hour gap if your reception and ceremony are in the same place? That seems really odd to me…and probably will to your guests–especially if you’re serving appetizers during that time.
If it’s at the same venue, the cocktail hour should immediately follow the ceremony. Otherwise your guests will just be standing around the bar. Frankly, if I were a guest, I’d be bored. Plus, most people really don’t like cash bars (and they’ll be expecting a cocktail hour immediately after the ceremony), so they’ll be caught off-guard. I don’t think it will go over well at all. It seems really inconsiderate of your guests, actually.
Post # 4
OP I see you are in Sydney. This is pretty common here. We did it. Friends have done it. Nobody blinked an eye. They all wandered off to the local pub, we had booked a room. Nobody complained, they all said they had fun catching up and meeting our families.
Post # 5
Pretty common thing to do in AUS, we’ll be doing it too.
You kinda need that hour to take photos, and cash bars are much more common than open bars here (at least in my area, I’ve never even been to an event with an open bar).
Post # 6
@CelticBeachBride: Because to have the ceremony at 4, that will take us through to 5pm-ish and then photosm we didnt want to start the reception at 5 because that would mean concluding our reception at 10pm and to me that seems too early, we also must accomodate a band to play 3 x 45 minute sets and losing that whole first hour of the reception would leave no room for formalities aswell as a 3 course meal and dancing.. we are trying to win them over by providing nibblies for them in that 1 hour gap which really isnt that long.. is it?
@Milo: Hi Milo! That makes me feel better thank you 🙂
Where abouts in Sydney are you from? Im in Manly 🙂
Post # 7
Ive heard storys of while the bride and groom are away the guests use up most if not all of the bar tab.. so I think its a good idea as that is what we will do, maybe provide each guest with a drink first and then they can purchase their own. Its not rude at all
Post # 8
If your bothered about people paying for drinks (it wouldnt bother me at all. Cash bar’s are common at uk weddings) then how about a welcome drink with your canapes. Just the one for that hour, no choice either, just a glass of something to hold while they are eating the canapes. You could even go for a nice refreshing fruit punch. No alchohol.
Post # 9
Sounds absolutely fine! They will have food, they can buy drinks, it will be fine! I don’t know if it’s an Aussie thing, but oh well.
And an hour will be bearable for them, it’s the only way you can get your photos without doing a first look.
We are doing a similar thing, there will be games in the gardens and soft drinks for half an hour then the cocktail hour/canapes will start, then we can hopefully join the last half of the cocktail hour before going in to the reception.
Post # 10
Why dnt u hav a cocktail hour?
Post # 11
So… Timeline is this?
4 – 5pm – ceremony
5-6pm – Gap with canapes
6pm – reception
How about maybe seeing if your venue can arrange maybe two or three types of signature drinks on your account to be served between 5 and 6 pm? It does not have to be alcoholic. Maybe a punch or sangria? It could even be self service in drink dispensers.
Post # 12
@ms_protea: yes pretty much! that is a good suggestion ill have a look into it 🙂
we would have a 5pm ceremony follwed with 6-7 cocktail hour but it pushes things back too far “cocktail hour” would mean i would miss 1hour of my 5 hour reception,.. im spending $40,000 on this day i dont want to miss out i