(Closed) Ceremony and reception gap in same venue. What to do?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
Hostess
8723 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

aquabee: Generally, I think I have been to weddings where there has been this gap, maybe not so much but if there is something to nibble on and something to drink, killing time is normally not so hard. I am a bit confused as to where your guests will have to be when the other couple is getting married? Will they only be allowed outside in certain areas. I suppose you couldn’t have guests milling around outside making noise and getting in the background of photos taken inside, but then I don’t know the venue, just a thought. Is the date fixed fixed fixed or could you rearrange another date and have it exactly as you wanted it, timeline wise?

Post # 3
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

Get married inside and take pictures outside.  Does it suck that you have to change your vision?  Sure, but to have a 2.5 hour gap with everything at the same exact location is just silly.  Gaps are rude.  Your guests are not okay with twiddling their thumbs for a few hours just because your outdoor ceremony trumped hosting them properly.

And of course your friend (the bride) liked the gap to take more pictures and not rush, but what did her guests think?  Like really think, not what they told her becuase lets face it no one tells the bride that her planning sucked.

Post # 4
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I know people who did this, because they were having the ceremony and the reception in the same place and they needed time to set up the tables and things for the wedding breakfast. A lot of people actually like the post-ceremony downtime, I think, because it gives them a chance to socialise with people they may not have seen for a long time etc etc. As long as they have something to eat, something to drink, something comfortable to sit down on, and maybe some sort of light entertainment (a caricature artist, perhaps, or some music), I don’t see the problem. It would also give you time to do all of the photos with the bride/groom and guests, and you would have a chance to thank them all personally for coming, which you may not have the time to do later on.

Post # 6
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1361 posts
Bumble bee

As a guest, gaps are the worst! I think you should either get married inside at 5 and keep the rest of your timeline the same or get married outside at 3, then move cocktail hour 3:30-4:30, then dinner at 5.

Post # 7
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

KinkyOrange:  What you described is a cocktail hour.  Main word there is HOUR.  To have anything more then that is too much, whether hosted or not.

Post # 8
Member
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

aquabee:  Honestly this sounds like an issue with the venue.  Why would they schedule 2 weddings in one day if they can’t accommodate them both? Sounds like your best option is to have the ceremony indoors.  I would be pretty peeved if I was your guest and had no where to go or nothing to do for 2 hours

Post # 10
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2542 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

aquabee:  Here’s what you do: you book it however you want and works out best. Your guests will figure themselvs out.

Post # 11
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909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

So did the other bride book it before you got a chance or did the venue book knowing you were already booked? If its the second one as much as I hate to complain I deffiniately would. 

Post # 12
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4036 posts
Honey bee

I’d recommend a first look and as many photos that you can get, beforehand.

Post # 15
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

freckles071611:  I’ve seen weddings where it’s more than an hour, and I think that’s just fine. That said, weddings here regularly last for 10-12 hours in total, so guests are prepared for a long day anyway.

The problem as I understand it from OP’s new post is actually that this gap takes place before the cocktail hour… and I think that really is a problem! Time to move some timings around…

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