Post # 1
I have terrible social anxiety. The thouht of being in front of so many people (even friends and family) scares the hell out of me. My worst symptom is that I get so light headed and feel like I’m going to pass out. My wedding (December) is going to be around 80 people. Maybe something smaller would have been better for me, but my fiance is so out going and wanted the whole big thing. Does anyone have any tips or advice? Was anyone else able to cope with it? Or maybe have any ideas on ways to get eyes off of me when it’s my turn to talk? My Maid/Matron of Honor suggested asking everyone to bow their heads and focus on the words we say in our vows?
The fear of just straight passing out is one thing. But, I also want to be able to enjoy our moment and focus on us, not on the horrible anxiety I feel and all the eyes that are on me.
Post # 2
Ohh, commenting to follow. I have horrible social anxiety as well. Not sure how I’m going to handle the day! What your Maid/Matron of Honor said sounds good, I think.
Post # 3
I don’t know if this would help for you but it sure did for me…. I had gone to my doctor for medication with my blood pressure and he gave me beta blockers – which apparently also are given for anxiety. Since then I’ve felt like a completely different person.
I can now crack a joke with a friend in a crowded place, have conversations with my coworkers and random strangers, I am much more open with family members I couldn’t speak freely with before and I went through my own ceremony like a boss!
Post # 4
WeddingBells2014: This seems very helpful. I’ve done some research since you posted and everyone seems to swear by this. This sounds like it could really help. Not just on my wedding day, but in other social situations where I have a hard time. My aunt is a pharmacist and I am definetely going see what she has to say about it. I am definetely going to give it a try though. Thank you so much <3
Post # 5
We have having super short vows so we say Bugger all. The total ceremony time is like 15-20 mins. You could consider not using a microphone.
Post # 6
AmyNicole1207: my best advice would be to eat all day so your sugar levels are nice and balanced. And do a first look, let FH calm your nerves a bit beforehand. Maybe a glass of bubbly beforehand if that’s your thing?
Post # 7
AmyNicole1207: I absolutely hate people staring at me and this was my biggest concern at the wedding. Honestly, on the day of – I NEVER felt like people were staring at me, even though they totally were! As soon as I walked down that aisle (the part I was most nervous about), all I could focus on was my husband-to-be. Even up there as we did our vows, etc., I seriously never felt nervous – and that is REALLY not like me – I HATE being the center of attention.
Keep in mind that everyone who is there will be loved ones – it’s not like 80 strangers staring at you. I felt that everyone there loved and supported us, so why get nervous? Also – you will be looking and feeling gorgeous in your dress with your hair and make up done!