Ceremony and Venue Type Advice

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

knotyet :  I don’t have a ton of advice on intimate/small/informal weddings necessarily, but with a prospective date of Oct of this year I would recommend you book soon if you end up wanting to go with a hall or venue. In my area (dependent on where you are obviously!) venues here book up sometimes up to 2 years in advance. 

If you want to elope, elope. You shouldn’t feel pressured into having a certain type of wedding. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Some bed and breakfasts or small inns will host weddings. I’ve also heard of people renting a cabin or Airbnb place for a wedding and hosting the wedding there – though you’d have to check with the owner to see if that’s okay and you’d have to do the clean up.

We had 60 people at our wedding but our venue could hold 250. So you don’t have to limit yourself to small venues.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

hikingbride :  I agree! We will probably only have about 125 and our venue can really hold up to 250. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Edit: I had to go back bc I missed a bit of your post. Contact a few nice restaurants and see if you can have the ceremony and reception there. This way everything is all in one location. If your guest list is only going to include parents, grandparents and close friends this might be perfect. Weddings don’t have to be some big, expensive production. We’re having ours at a local park and its pretty cheap to rent for the entire day. Whatever you decide no need to have things included that make you uncomfortable. Whatever you’d like to skip, skip it! Like dancing. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

knotyet :  there are SO MANY options if you want a smaller, low cost wedding. Figure out what is important to you (for us it was- our outfits, photographer and good venue… the rest we didn’t really care about so went super cheap for those).

We got married at a sculpture park, so the ceremony was looking over a lake and the venue itself was looking out over the sculptures in the park. Loved it.

We also looked at; wineries, an aquarium, the zoo, local parks… basically everything that wasn’t just a wedding venue (not that there’s anything wrong with that!!). I used to work at a golf course and I just remember how excited we all were when we held a wedding there- the staff were always super excited and we gave it our all cause it was different for us…. I feel like our venue was the same for us- the wait staff were peeking out at the ceremony and I felt like a queen all day! It was pretty affordable, considering it was all in one venue. I know it’s a crazy amount of money for one day, but I think it was worth it (we spent approx $10,000… so a lot for us, but not the type of money we couldn’t save for).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We had 50 guests at our wedding, so smallish, but not intimate.  

Our reception was in a private room at a nice resturant.  I’d look into this option.  Most nice resturants have private rooms to rent, and you can find one that fits your size.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

I second a PP’s suggestion about looking into bed and breakfasts. My Fiance and I were seriously considering one of these intimate wedding packages: https://www.bramptoninn.com/weddings.html If I remember correctly, it would’ve been about $3,000 for 20 people, and the only other things we’d need were clothes and a photographer! We also considered looking into a restaurant, but we didn’t get too far on the intimate wedding path before my dad offered to pay twice as much as we were budgeting in order to invite more family members.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

knotyet :  I say this with the kindest intentions. Honestly, in your situation I’d elope and not think twice about it. Only if your Fiance also agrees and is fine with this. Eloping doesn’t take away your mothers chance to have a wedding. Her chance was during her own life at her own wedding. This isn’t about what she wants or anyone else wants. Its about whats best for you and the man you’re about to spend your life with. Having said that if you decide on a larger wedding, and all the stress that comes with it, are you open to changing the date? Maybe next May or June to give yourselves more time and venue availability?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

If you want to elope, go for it.

We’re doing small for the reasons you describe. We sent out 17 invites, knowing that 4 couples we invited most likely will not attend. We expect 30 max, including 5 children.

Wedding in a park, restaurant reception. I have a dress. We’re doing cake. But I have no intention of any dancing.

FI’s family is less than thrilled with this arrangement and it’s causing a LOT of issues, and for that reason, I wish we were just going to elope. Better to ask forgiveness than ask for permission.

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