- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
I’ve started to look at venues, because we don’t have much time until the hopeful wedding date (Oct. 14th). But the whole thing got me thinking, I mean my parents have said they’d pay for a wedding, but it just seems wasteful to spend thousands of dollars for a single day. We’ve talked eloping, but I would like our parents, grandparents, and best friends (my Maid/Matron of Honor and his BM) to be there. That’s really all I’d need, and I’d like a cake and dress. However, at this point I’m starting to second guess if I even want the dress. I just want our nearest and dearest there and a great cake. SO has said that he’d rather a wedding or to elope and come back married, rather than a mix of the two with a select few at a courthouse. Also, when I’ve brought up eloping, a lot of people have acted hurt at the thought they wouldn’t get to be there.
Does anyone have any non-traditional wedding ceremony and reception stories and advice? Particularly on the type and type of venue to look for? Did anyone else question the ideal that a wedding should cost thousands of dollars?
Truthfully, I’m looking for options, and also a way to stay polite. I know that the reception is viewed as a thank you to your guests for attending your wedding, but outside of the money thoughts, my SO and I are both introverted and shy. The idea of dancing in front of a whole bunch of people and all that attention on us is disconcerting. I would love to have a little wedding in a chapel and then just rent out a restaurant to eat, but my mom said if we have a wedding, she just wants to book it all at the same place and have someone else take care of food and clean up and not have people have to drive somewhere else for the reception.
One thing I’m looking at now is a little chapel on a golf course that holds 65. That would be pretty intimate. Maybe that would work.
I don’t know. I feel all over the place. Any advice?