(Closed) Ceremony Dilemma Help

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If he can’t compromise on this important issue, I would be concerned about his ability to compromise in the future.

Post # 4
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think he needs to be a bit more flexible.  This wedding is about the two of you, not just what he wants.  Is there any way you two could have a ceremony in a netural location, such as a different state or city, that way both families could attend? 

If he’s not willing to compromise on this, and won’t be willing to accomodate things for you or your family, that’s a huge red flag for your future.  Anytime someone prefaces their post on how much their fiance is nice, wonderful, etc., it makes me believe that not everything is sunshine and roses.  Just food for thought I suppose.

Hopefully you two can work something out.

Post # 6
6109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“I feel like I would be disrespecting my family by just not having any type of ceremony here.”


How about just a special family dinner to celebrate with yours afterwards?


I agree, this is kind of a red flag to me.  All else may be wonderful, but this is pretty big of a discrepancy.

Post # 7
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Are you asking for the civil ceremony to be before the religious ceremony?

Because I am a religious person, and if I were in his shoes, I would also flat out refuse. I would, however, compromise if the civil or symbolic ceremony would be after the religious one. Then it would just be like renewing your vows.

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