- 9 years ago
While we’re not officially engaged yet, my sweetie and I have started talking about marriage. He’s mentioned more than once that he really wants to be married in the Catholic church. I’m an Episcopalian, and even though that makes me a "left-handed Catholic," I’d prefer to be married in an Episcopal church. Beyond the issue of being more familiar with my own denomination, I also take serious exception to the Catholic church’s official stance on the place of women within the church, among other issues.
What makes this a little more complicated is that I live in the US and he lives in Europe; if we get married in the States, as we’ve discussed, it’s not likely that many people from his side will attend. One option is to be married in the States, in my church, and then to have a Catholic blessing in his country. Another is to have a Catholic priest at our wedding. What’s most important to me is to have a ceremony that reflects who we are, without wrangling. (That doesn’t mean without compromises, of course.)
I’d really appreciate your insight into this. Have any of you faced similar dilemmas?