(Closed) Ceremony Drama

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@TB_QT: Honestly, even if his sisters do walk down the aisle, no one is going to notice them. Especially since you have bridesmaids of your own and you being the BRIDE, no one really cares who else is walking down that aisle. At any wedding Ive been to, I havent given a rats a** about seeing anyone other than the bride walk down that aisle. 

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

meh, its a 30 second walk down the aisle, you have pick your battles and as they are not BM’s i would give this to them to be honest

Post # 5
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, firstly, I’m greatly non-confrontational, so you may want to take a bolder person’s advice 😉 

Is there a reason you don’t want them to be a part of the processional? Are you worried about length, or just the unconventionality of it all? I haven’t ever seen it done before, but I don’t know that I’ve been to a wedding where sibilings aren’t in the wedding party; so, I don’t have a firm real world grasp on that…

I personally see no reason not to include them in the processional. It seems like it would smooth things over with the in-laws. =) Plus! Who could outside you and your groom on your special day? They don’t have a chance! 


Post # 6
46600 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have them seated by the ushers just before the processional.

Post # 7
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh. The reading. I don’t blame them for refusing. Nothing says “I don’t really want you in my wedding, but the family’s on my ass about it,” like offering someone the job of doing a reading.

Let them go in the processional in front of your Future Mother-In-Law. What would it hurt to let them? And if you make a stink about it, you’re just going to alienate your in-laws further.

Post # 8
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Seems like overkill to me. IMO Future Mother-In-Law put the nail in their coffin by not wanting to be escorted by them; they’re not part of the wedding party and they can just take their seats before the ceremony starts along with the rest of the guests.

Post # 10
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


She just wants her daughters up there because this will be their only chance to ever walk down the aisle. 

That kind of remark doesn’t do anything but add to the drama, either. 

Post # 15
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@TB_QT:  My Answer would be “Hell No”.  Only mothers and Grandmothers are to be escorted.  Who needs a 30 min processional so everyone can just walk down the aisle.  If they are not Bridesmaid or Best Man and they are not readers, then they guests.  None of my sisters were my Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding and I have 3.  No one was offended because we were having a small intimate wedding consisting of family and close friends only.  Our wedding party consisted of my Maid/Matron of Honor only.  I had readers instead so 2 of my sisters read poetry.  My Maid/Matron of Honor read First Corin.  My 92 yr Grandma gave the Blessing.  Now afterwards, I made sure that we took tons of family pictures since ppl tend to only get together for weddings and funerals.

My gf bro got married before us and she wasn’t in the wedding but their brother was.   For my brothers wedding, only 4 of us made the cut but a ton were left out on her side. 

You sound like you have enough ppl in your wedding and no matter what you do, your Future Mother-In-Law will not be satisfied.  So, instead of making your life even more drama filled, just “Say No”.   Yeah, you’ll be the bad guy but turning your wedding into their wedding isn’t what you want. 

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