Post # 1
I’m at a loss. I did not grow up in an overly-religous family, although my FI’s was somewhat consistant in church-going. Niether of us have attended many weddings in our lives and are thus somewhat ‘clueless’ to this whole thing. We are getting married in a very laid back church, and the ceremony will be quite short (We are going to attempt to keep it to half an hour or just over). I was wondering if anyone had some examples of how a ceremony traditionally goes? Bible veres traditionally used, ect? We will be personalizing of course, but I just need a general idea of the sequence of events. Everytime I sit down to try to write up a ‘rough draft’ of the programs, I just freeze up. Any help would be appreciated. (:
Post # 3
Hi date and state twin! Welcome to WeddingBee. It helps if you can tell us, what religion are you?
I know how the Catholic nuptial mass works at least, so if it helps, here’s how the simple Catholic ceremony goes if there’s no communion:
Processional: priest and alter boys first, then bridal party, then bride – everyone sits
Opening prayer by priest
First reading (you pick who will read)
Responsorial psalm (normally sung and repeated by the audience)
Second reading (you pick who)
Gospel (read by priest)
Short homily/sermon by priest
Marriate rite (exchange of vows, blessing and exchange of rings)
Closing prayer/blessing for the newlyweds
Priest announces “for the first time Mr. and Mrs…”
Recessional: priest and alter boys, bridal party, then bride and groom
Post # 4
I have the book “The Wedding Ceremony Planner” by Judith Johnson and it is wonderful! Not so much for Bible verses and things like that, but it has tons of suggestions for absolutely beautiful things to include. Plus it’s just a great step-by-step guide on how to put a ceremony together. Highly recommended!
Post # 5
You should look up Mrs Cherry Pie. She wrote her own ceremony and it is absolutely beautiful! We based our ceremony off of hers because it was so amazing!
Post # 6
@jenbrandner–Wow! Another Wisconsinite…and with the same date, nonetheless! How are your last minute details coming along? Hard to believe that it’s just five weeks from next Wednesday! (: I suppose it would have helped to mention that we are Lutheran, though our church is a very laid back one (A band every Sunday, complete with electric guitars, jeans and teeshirts, ect, ect). I would assume that the idea is the same for Lutheran ceremonies, though…with a couple of obvious differences. Thanks so much for the outline…it helps a lot. Think it would be okay if we only had one reading? We are really looking to keep it short and sweet.
@summerhill–Thanks for the book suggestion! I’ll definately have to place an Amazon order for it, pronto. I have put so much thought into the reception that it’s completely overshadowed the most important part of the day–the ceremony!
@clarebee–Thanks so much! I will try to get in touch with her. (:
Post # 7
Google the hand ceremony, it was the only one that made the FH cry when he read it.
Post # 8
@LilMissSteiggy: Yeah Aug 7th is coming up pretty fast! I think you should check with your pastor/officiant to get “approval” for your order of ceremony, just to make sure they’re ok with only one reading, etc.
As far as reading suggestions, there’s the usual “love is patient, love is kind” and “god made Eve from Adam’s rib” stuff. I’ve also heard some brides mention Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, a really nice reading that’s short and sweet. I’m going to use this one, pending approval from my priest.
9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:
10 If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Post # 9
@LilMissSteiggy: actually you can find her ceremony in one of her blog posts!!