Post # 17
We are having a very small ceremony on a Friday afternoon, just immediate family and grandparents about 20 people total (no friends). The reception will be the same day just later in the day.
When I told people most of my friends were supportive saying that they would be thrilled to come to the reception. I had one friend that was really upset and offended, she has since gotten over it and is fine.
I think it’s really important to keep the guest list small too. I would be offended to be invited to the only the reception if I found out that a lot of people were attending the ceremony and I was one of a few that was not going to it.
Post # 18
I’m so happy to see this post! We are having a small ceremony, just a small family affair on the friday. Then dinner, and Saturday will be our reception.
Post # 19
I think it’s totally fine. Where I grew up (midwest), it’s completely normal for guests not to attend a ceremony, but to come later on just for the reception.
Post # 20
I guess I should have checked this thread a little sooner! I didn’t expect so many responses.
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Most of our guests will be from the area, with just a handful of people having to travel (3 hours driving max). The Out of Town guests will be invited to the ceremony (actually, they all have a part in the ceremony -BM, Groomsmen, great grandparents, etc), so I don’t have to worry about offending them.
I LOVE the idea of having the ceremony on display somewhere so people can watch it if they want to. Maybe also have a few pictures taken by family members during the ceremony and have them printed out the morning of the reception to be put into an album for the guests to look at too? Hmm…ideas!
It’s interesting that you mentioned “fishing for gifts” because I hadn’t thought of it at all. I wouldn’t have ever assumed that if I were a guest in all honesty! I sincerely hope that all of my family members, FI’s family members, and our friends know us better than that. Besides, we’ve lived together for 2 years now, I sure hope that people realize that we aren’t “gift hungry”! We really don’t need anything anyway! Haha
@ everyone else: Thanks for your comments. I am, like HoyaLawya2010, from the midwest so it isn’t very uncommon for people to only show up for the reception, regardless of whether they’re invited to the ceremony or not. I just wanted to know if other people who, like me, are constantly thinking wedding would notice or care if they weren’t invited to the ceremony. I’m glad I know now. 🙂 Also, I hope all of you brides throwing your receptions a day later have a great time…please let me know how it works out for you! I’m still undecided as to whether we’re doing the two-day-thing.