Post # 1
My fiancé and I are working on putting together our personalized ceremony. Something I am looking for suggestions on is “god” or no “god” in the ceremony. My fiancé, my family and his family (mostly) don’t believe in god. I however do believe in a god but not god from the bible, I believe in a higher power but haven’t really figured it out like many others. I would say I am not religious at all. The reverend suggested we use the word Spirit, but I think that sounds a little wierd. Any suggestions for a line or two that respect both our views?
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Post # 2
I also think that spirit is odd. I dont think there is anything wrong with not mentioning god in your ceremony, especially considering that you said that you weren’t religious. If neither you nor your partner see this marriage as a covenant with god or a higher power, then I would just have it focus on your love.
I pulled this vow from the Knot (i’ll link the full thing below), that I think might work
I, Bride take you, Groom to be my husband. I will share my life with yours, Build our dreams together, Support you through times of trouble, and rejoice with you in times of happiness. I promise to give you respect, love and loyalty through all the trials and triumphs of our lives together. This commitment is made in love, kept in faith, lived in hope, and made new every day of our lives.
it includes faith, but faith can mean many different things, and you can take it to mean whatever you want
Post # 3
chels88bridetobee : I would not use Spirit because a lot of people there who do believe in God might take it for the Holy Spirit, which is basically the same thing (without going into all the details anyway).
I remember reading this article some years back about the couple’s in the same situation. You may want to read it and consider some of the advice in it.
Post # 4
I’m Christian, my husband is atheist and a huge Carl Sagan fan. We were united in a Celtic handfasting (I’m Irish American). Our ceremony included references to the Universe, stars, earth, etc. It had spiritual undertones without mentioning religious dogma.
Post # 5
Ive heard “the universe” used in a not cheesy way. I personally don’t like the sound of “spirit”.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for all your helpful suggestions!!’ This has really pointed me in the right direction 🙂 I am glad to hear I am not
the only one that feels spirit might sounds wierd.
Post # 7
As a Catholic, using Spirit is weird to me because of the close connection to the Holy Spirit (and also because it sounds New Age-y; just my opinion). I like the idea of the universe, or the “heavens and the earth”, something with more of a natural ring to it.
Post # 8
shyqueen12 : Well, Native Americans refer to the Great Spirit.
Post # 9
testyone : Truth. My bad.
Post # 10
You mention a reverend… is he a Christian reverend then? Doing a non-Christian wedding? I’m confused!