Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding (in an area of FL that isn’t known for destination weddings, but it worked for us), but I still want to be married in a church. My fiance was raised catholic while I was raised baptist. We are open to being married in a Christian church of any denomination. There are a variety of churchs in the area, but since we are not from the area we are not members of any of them.
My question is how do I go about finding if the church will marry us as non-members? Is there a polite way to ask? Are the some denominations that will not marry us no matter what, so I shouldn’t even bother?
Post # 3
You just have to come right out and ask. Just call their contact person and ask what the procedure is to get married there if you arent a member. They will tell you right away.
Usually protestant churches are more willing to do this, but I have even see presbyterian, methodis and Anglican churches allow non members to use their church. I dont know if catholic churches allow this or not
Post # 4
I agree. Just ask 🙂
I wanted to get married at this gorgeous church on the uni campus but we were not a member of it. I just emailed him and said we are not a member of the church but would like to get married there, are you available to meet? WE met and he asked us to come to a couple of services, which we did, and we ended up getting married there. Obviously it wasnt for free as we werent a member!
Post # 5
Hello. What is your policy on marrying non church members?
They might charge you more though.
Post # 6
Like PPs said, just come right out and ask.
Fiance and I are getting married at a Catholic church that we do not belong to. Not all Catholic churches will allow it, but it’s up to each individual parish to decide. We do, however, have to go through all our premarital counseling and stuff through this church, so I don’t know if we could have managed it if the church weren’t in our own city. Once again, though, how and where you do precana or any other Catholic church requirements is probably up to the invidual church.
Post # 7
It totally depends on the denomination. Episcopalians will marry anyone. Other churches will marry if one member of the couple is of their denomination. Other times at least one member needs to be Christian. Just call around. According to my mom (a bona fide church lady), churches get requests for weddings all the time.
Post # 8
Yes, just ask–yours won’t be the first request they’ve heard so don’t feel awkward. Our Catholic church is a very popular location in a wedding-heavy city so its fees for nonparishioners are higher and the times are more restricted, but they will still do it. I know for sure that there are other Catholic parishes in the area that don’t have those fees/restriction–just depends on the church!
Post # 9
Thank you all for the recommendation to just ask. I has expected churches to to surprised a request from non-members, but they weren’t (even the ones who only marry members). I think we found the church, now to fill out the paper work and to put down a deposit.
Post # 10
We are getting married in a church we are not members at. My grandma is. But it is a small community and we just asked. They are so so nice and have been super helpful.
We finally have our first meeting with the minister next month when we are out there.