(Closed) Ceremony in a church we are not members of – how to ask if they’ll marry us

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You just have to come right out and ask. Just call their contact person and ask what the procedure is to get married there if you arent a member. They will tell you right away.

Usually protestant churches are more willing to do this, but I have even see presbyterian, methodis and Anglican churches allow non members to use their church. I dont know if catholic churches allow this or not

Post # 4
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree. Just ask 🙂

I wanted to get married at this gorgeous church on the uni campus but we were not a member of it. I just emailed him and said we are not a member of the church but would like to get married there, are you available to meet? WE met and he asked us to come to a couple of services, which we did, and we ended up getting married there. Obviously it wasnt for free as we werent a member!

Post # 5
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hello.  What is your policy on marrying non church members?

They might charge you more though.


Post # 6
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Like PPs said, just come right out and ask.

Fiance and I are getting married at a Catholic church that we do not belong to.  Not all Catholic churches will allow it, but it’s up to each individual parish to decide.  We do, however, have to go through all our premarital counseling and stuff through this church, so I don’t know if we could have managed it if the church weren’t in our own city.  Once again, though, how and where you do precana or any other Catholic church requirements is probably up to the invidual church.

Post # 7
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It totally depends on the denomination.  Episcopalians will marry anyone.  Other churches will marry if one member of the couple is of their denomination.  Other times at least one member needs to be Christian.  Just call around.  According to my mom (a bona fide church lady), churches get requests for weddings all the time.

Post # 8
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes, just ask–yours won’t be the first request they’ve heard so don’t feel awkward. Our Catholic church is a very popular location in a wedding-heavy city so its fees for nonparishioners are higher and the times are more restricted, but they will still do it. I know for sure that there are other Catholic parishes in the area that don’t have those fees/restriction–just depends on the church!

Post # 10
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are getting married in a church we are not members at. My grandma is. But it is a small community and we just asked. They are so so nice and have been super helpful.

We finally have our first meeting with the minister next month when we are out there.

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