(Closed) Ceremony in Manhattan & Reception in Queens – Would you come?

posted 6 years ago in New York City
  • poll: Do you think it is alright to host the ceremony in one borough and the reception in another?
    Yes. It is called a MetroCard. : (15 votes)
    35 %
    Yes, but guest may complain (what else is new!) : (16 votes)
    37 %
    NO! how dare you! : (11 votes)
    26 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    how far is the drive from each other?is it 2 hours?if so i would probly just choose one to go to and which ever was closet to me ceremony or reception.

    i would not drive 2 hours one way,that would be a 4 hour drive,unless you were a close family member or friend.

    i would send you a gift though even if i didnt go.

    Post # 4
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    How many out of town guests do you have?

    I’m not from NYC and have no idea how difficult it is to use a metro card or figure out the subway system. I would probably attend but would get a taxi- I guess?. I would be a little miffed because it would be hard enough to figure out how to attend a wedding in either borough, without transferring between them.

    But this is all based on me having to fly there and not having any knowledge of the city.

    Post # 5
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I just can’t buy into the idea of inviting some people only to the reception. I know it’s common in the UK, but I don’t understand sending the message “you didn’t make the cut to actually witness our wedding, but here’s your consolation prize invite.”

    Also, since you’re having the wedding in a park, why not have it in a park in Queens? Wouldn’t that make it a lot easier on your guests?

    Post # 6
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    I noticed that there are more people attending the reception than the ceremony— Why???

    Post # 7
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If most of your guests have actually been to the city before, it should be no problem.  If they’ve never been to NYC…they’ll be all discombobulated and weirded out and will probably think they’re in the ghetto if they see a non-white person or something.  It amazes me how inaccessible people think NYC is. 

    Anyway, it depends on your guests and their attitude toward the city.

    Post # 8
    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I live in Brooklyn, and I would be annoyed having to go to CP then 2 hours later heading out to Queens. I’d never take the subway in wedding gear either. It’s logistically annoying. I mean if you are my colse friend, I would go, but would I be thrilled about it…absolutely not! Why not have the ceremony in Queens too?

    Post # 10
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Sapphire-Dreamer:  where in queens? And where in the park?

    If the wedding ceremony is on the east side of the park and the reception is in LIC or Astoria, no big… But if its way uptown and I have to get to little neck, then I might be peeved but I’d probably still go… if everyone is local, they all have metro cards or will take a cab.

    Post # 11
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    only a 45 minute car drive,then yes i would go.

    i thought it was like 2 hours each way.

    look,its your day,you should get to have the wedding of your dreams,and if wanting your ceremony in central park is your dream ceremony then do it.

    people who are able to be there will.if it is easier for most to just attend the reception then thats ok to.


    Post # 12
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I said yes, but I would definitely complain (secretly, behind your back, because I’m polite like that lol). Here is my reasoning:

    1. Depending on where your ceremony will be, it will likely be a bit of a hike to the Subway, which means people will be walking in wedding shoes/clothing a significant number of blocks if they want to take the subway.

    2. There may be a subway transfer necessary, again, depending on your location. I would definitely give very detailed instructions on where to get the subway, where to transfer, even where to stand on the train for ease of exit. I had a girl come visit me from the Bronx and she was totally clueless as to the train situation in Queens. 

    3. If people decide to take cabs, everyone has to worry about hailing cabs and then how much would the fare be to your venue – $40-50 about, to the middle of Queens?

    I think transportation would be nice, for everyone’s ease, but if not, I would lay out all the options on the wedding website. 

    Post # 13
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Sapphire-Dreamer:  If you,re going to do it, then I’d say rent one or two of those party buses (yeah you know the ones I mean). They won’t be that expensive and it will be a huge convenience for your guests.

    Post # 14
    11435 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    If you were a close friend or family member, I likely would, but not without a little trepidation, lol.  One of my dear friends was married in a beautiful church in Manhattan and had her reception in Westbury on Long Island, and it seemed to take just short of F  O  R  E  V  E  R on the LIE to get there.

    Post # 15
    5892 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I like the idea of having a party bus. Because even if you drove in, the parking and the hike would be a pain. If you dont do a party bus, I would make sure to have a “tour guide” (maybe even have a flag) that can round everyone up and walk with them too the station, get them on the right line and walk to the reception place.


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