Post # 1
We’re almost ready to start booking our wedding and, having reviewed our original plan, are struggling with what we should do.
The original plan was a ceremony and meal with immediate family. That would mean my mum on my side and 7 on his side. My mum would be walking me down the aisle meaning my side would be empty, reminding me of people who are longer around and would have me feeling a little uncomfortable.
Alternative ideas and why we’re thinking they wouldn’t work…
Open the whole thing up to family and friends. That would mean 50+ guests and having to invite family we really don’t really want there. Fiance also doesn’t like the idea of anything big.
Elope. But that would mean my mum not being able to walk her only child down the aisle and, although she wouldn’t say anything, she would be hurt.
With regard to the ceremony and reception, we’re open to ideas. The only “must haves” are the dress and the walk down the aisle.
It seems our only options are to elope, keep it as it is and risk a tough day for me, or open it up to more people which Fiance doesn’t want.
We’re also open to the legal part and the ceremony being separate if needed.
Is there a solution we’re not seeing? Hope I’ve provided enough info 🙂
Post # 2
do whatever makes you most comfortable and happy! and just because the 7 guests would be from your FI’s side, doesn’t mean they have to sit on one side of the aisle. Just have 4 sit on one side and 3 on the other!
Post # 3
Is there any inbetween of a fancy courthouse that you could do an elopment style wedding and only have your mom and his parents at and then have the immediate family all join for dinner or something?
In CA we have the Santa Barbara Courthouse and you can do as formal or informal of weddings there as you like. But, it is simply gorgeous.
Post # 4
rendezvous89: Why not seat people differently? Four and three, as another poster has suggest, or in a circle around the officiant, or half circle, or some other idea. Then you still have an aisle, and your mom will be able to walk you down.
Post # 5
+1 to PPs who said you don’t need conventional seating. Remember, focus on the good of the day and not who is missing! You will be surrounded by those who love you and want to celebrate with you 🙂
Post # 6
Why not immediate family and close friends. Then you can fill up your side (or hopefully just audience) with people who love you And who you’ll be happy to see, but avoid inviting family you don’t sound thrilled about.
Post # 7
Alternative seating is an option we’ll consider. I’ll speak to him about it tonight.
annabanana85: Thanks! Unfortunately due to family politics, if we start opening it up we’ll have to invite see extended family to prevent headaches. We did think about that but it’s just not worth the aggro 😒
Post # 8
Definitely do what you would feel is best! One of my closest friends had a TINY wedding, a total of 10 people or so. It really comes down to your preferences – though I think you should consider immediate family, despite the headaches it may cause. Good luck!!
Post # 9
Put out juuuuust enough seats for everyone, and they’ll have to sit on both sides! Problem solved!