Post # 1
Again I am posting because I am honestly at a BLANK in preparing our
ceremony from beginning to end! I really would like help, my family and Fiance
have no clue where to start either, and they are pretty much emotionally
tapped out, as am I when it comes to this wedding, lol………. Not really funny
though. My officiant tells me to pick clips from his stupid book he sent me, which
looks like a coloring book!
Help me please, I have even googled and am getting confused – I need a start a middle and end.
We are having a Wine Box Ceremony also. Thank you to anyone who can guide me
through this process!
Post # 3
Darling Husband and I wrote our whole ceremony from beginning to end. We pulled a ton from the internet and piece the general ideas together, then rewrote them. Darling Husband is a great poetic writer so that really helped, but we did build our whole ceremony around one part that we found that was super similar to this one:
Post # 4
Why is your officiant’s book stupid? You picked him presumably because you liked him and trusted that he knew what he was doing. Sit down with him and create it together.
Post # 5
I’ve found it most helpful to look at others’ wedding ceremonies — many people post the full texts of their ceremonies, and put in notes as to actions, i.e. “couple turns toward each other” or “groomsman hands couple the rings” or “they kiss”, etc. It really helps to get an idea of how a ceremony flows, what to do when, and so on. I’m also getting FI’s input into things — it’s his ceremony too, after all.
Post # 6
I am an Ascensionist and my Fiance is agnostic. We picked a civil officiant who told us he’d do whatever we told him to, so I had to write basically the whole thing, which is ok with me because I’m a writer by profession. If you’re looking for ideas on how to structure it, it should go something like this (depending on length you want for ceremony) Greeting; Reading; Message (about love, partnership, etc); Vows; Blessing (if you’re religous); Announcement
So, a greeting might be something like the officiant saying “Welcome everyone to witness the marriage of Ms. and Mr. We are very glad to be here on this special day, blah blah blah”
I picked a poem from a book of romantic poetry for my Future Sister-In-Law to read. I’m also having my Fiance pick something he would like to have read. You can skip this if you just want a really short ceremony.
The message is usually something the officiant says about the gravity of the wedding vows, and the happiness of two people joining their lives. Since I’m ascensionist, ours will have a very “path to enlightenment” feel to it, but you could ask him to say anything you want. Again, you can skip this part if you want, and just have the officiant say “Ms. and Mr. will now give their vows”
My Fiance didn’t want to write our own vows, so we’re going with traditional vows. Even so, there are many variations. I internet searched “traditional wedding vows” and just saved the examples that I liked. They usually have these on websites like TheKnot and Brides.com, etc. You can tweak them anyway you want. If you want to write them yourself, just think about what it is you want to promise to your Fiance…. to love him until you die? to protect him? to help him with his life?
The announcement is the part where the officiant says “by the power vested in me by the state of ……., I now pronounce you husband and wife”
Hope that helps!
Post # 7
@Meowkers: I picked him because I am having a destination wedding, and there were not many to pick from, and his book is really from the 70s and looks like a coloring book, no lie!
Post # 8
@ORella2012: Thank you very much, that helps me A LOT! I will be working on this tonight, I just needed some guidance.