Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding. At first everyone in both of our families was excited and willing to go. Now that the day is getting closer our immediate family members are slowly dropping out. Their reasons are completely understandable. The economy has put a strain on a lot of them and others have come down with health problems. I really want a small wedding with just our parents, siblings, and nieces and nephews, but we just found out that a large group of extended family is planning on surprising us there.
What I have been thinking of doing is planning a small ceremony or wedding blessing at home prior to the actual wedding. I really want my father to give me away but if I do a destination wedding I don’t think that will be possible. Do you have any suggestion on this? What is the etiquette for a blessing prior to a destination wedding?
Post # 3
Hmm, I’m not quite sure. I think the main goal though, is for the people who aren’t going to the destination wedding to feel involved and not like they are completely missing out, while making sure those who are going to the destination don’t feel like they are missing out because you already got married as well.
If you do have a small ceremony wedding before the destination wedding, definitely do a vow reknewal or marriage blessing at the destination or vice-versa. I’m not sure it’s really necessary for you to inform people about this (I just don’t know the ettiquette there) but I would suggest you make your bridal party/immediate family well aware of this so that they can be prepared to answer any questions that may come up.
Post # 4
I think an afternoon ceremony is a really sweet idea or you can even have a post reception after you come back for those who couldn’t make it! You can put a slideshow up of all the pictures during your destination wedding so other guests can feel like they at least got to be there in spirit.