(Closed) Ceremony programs – a note about “church ettiquette”?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hm.  It is good to communicate to your guests -esp. about how it is okay to remain in the pew when others kneel, so no one feel awkward.  Also, if those other requests are your needs, it is fine to communicate those as well.  How to go about it?  Well, I think a note in the program is a good idea.

“Please remember to silence cell phones and please avoid flash photography.”

I have a question- is everyone allowed to take communion?  Or just CATHOLICS at your Church- or just Christians, or just members?  (Every Church is different!)  -That affects how you will word/ address that.

If everyone is welcome to take part, at their discretion, you could make a note:

“All are welcome to take part in today’s Holy Communion.  If you choose not to partake, feel comfortable to remain in your seat, at your discretion”

Post # 5
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It might be best to have the officiant make a few polite announcements before the ceremony begins.

Post # 6
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

In the Catholic church one can only receive communion if you have been baptised into a church that is, well, in communion with the Catholic church. That basically means that ONLY Catholics can receive communion as the Protestant churches have not reached that state of unity with the Catholic church. For example, my Fiance was baptised in a non-denominational Christian church but cannot recieve communion because he has not fully joined (by virtue of confirmation et al) the Catholic church.


In response to your questions though, I think cbee nailed it with the cell/photo one. Asw for communion, ask your priest or the parish secretary. I am sure that they have a brief paragraph or note that is standard for events like this.

Post # 7
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@cbee: @jenbrandner: If we are talking CATHOLIC Holy Eucharist, not any and all can receive… ever. Not even all “baptized Christians.” In fact, if a Catholic is in a state of Mortal Sin, they are not to receive either. 

Orthodox churches that are in line with Rome can, but those members should primarily follow their churches teachings on the matter, i.e. Eastern Orthodox can, but not Anglican. Same with Baptists, Lutherans, Etc… 

“The Church sets out specific guidelines regarding how we should prepare ourselves to receive the Lord’s body and blood in Communion. To receive Communion worthily, you must be in a state of grace (i.e. no Mortal Sin which includes pre-marital sex and even missing mass on Sunday’s), have made a good confession since your last mortal sin, believe in transubstantiation, observe the Eucharistic fast (1hr), and, finally, not be under an ecclesiastical censure such as excommunication.”

“Another reason that many non-Catholics may not ordinarily receive Communion is for their own protection, since many reject the doctrine of the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist. Scripture warns that it is very dangerous for one not believing in the Real Presence to receive Communion: “For any one who eats and drinks without discerning the body eats and drinks judgment upon himself. That is why many of you are weak and ill, and some have died” (1 Cor. 11:29–30).”

For our Protestant brothers and sisters, the only time it is even remotely possible to receive communion without “becoming Catholic” is if Death is imminent, and then follow the same guidelines Catholics do. i.e. They must profess belief in the true presence. 

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Post # 8
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012



#2:  Upon entering the Church of God and witnessing the marriage of our beloved friends (you can add your names here or not) ,we ask out of respect and courtesty that all (less personal) electronic devices  be powered/turned off and cameras be switched to silent mode.   

(not direct rather it includes everyone)

#2   Al entrar a la  Casa de Dios y ser testigos de la union  matrimonial de nuestros queridos amigos, les pedimos por cortesia (accent on the i)que apagan sus cellulares y que las camaras de fotografia(accent on the i) sean puestos en modulo silencioso.


Double Check:

Jen,  you might want to check with your Church if they permit photographs during the Readings , I know that the Catholic demonition does not allow people to take photos during the Sacred Scripture Reading “Lecturas” even in weddings. Other parts involving the Lazo ,  offering your flowers to La Virgen, etc  are permitted

The church we are getting married in does not allow flash on cameras because of the painting they have , so check with the priest or church.

@cbee:  I loved how she worded it , it is less direct and more comforting for non-Catholic members

Post # 10
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012


yes, not sure if you were the bride that needed help with her flowers on her lazo. I love it recently last month I realized there was a Latina tab on weddingbee. Unfortunately not many brides post items there. I hope that as soon as I have my venue I will post frequently.



I cannot lie , I am only a Catholic by name not by action what I mean by that is that I have not attended church in 2 years ; however , when I attended Sunday Mass when it came time for the Communion the congregation sat down so I don’t believe you have to worry to much about that. People learn by seeing others, so if people begin sitting down than others will follow.

However, Jen, Post #2 from CBEE her last words on people “partaking on the communion is worded perfectly ” I would utilize her words.

Spanish translation to CBEEs’ English version:

Todos estan bienvendios a recibir  la ostia, si no desean participar pueden permanecer en sus bancos(benches) .


Todos estan bienvendios a recibir  la ostia, si no desean participar pueden permanecer en sus bancos(benches) sentados o de pie como gusten.


Jen I caught one of my mistakes :
camaras (accent on the first a) fotograficas (accent on the first a)

camaras fotograficas     not    camaras de fotografias

Post # 12
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think you need to make a note about the communion, usually people know. However, an alternative to both of those messages is for the priest to make an announcement at the begining when everyone is seated but before the bride enters. I attended a wedding where the priest made a brief announcement about the bride’s request that guests refrain from taking photos during the ceremony. Also, my cousin asked the priest at his wedding to do a brief explanation of the catholic mass because they anticipated a lot of non-catholics would be attending and it worked well.

Post # 13
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Every Catholic wedding that I’ve ever been to, the priest normally takes care of asking people to “be quiet, sit down, and enjoy the show” and they are normally very tactful about it, normally saying something to the effect of even though this is “a wedding”, the Catholic church recognizes this as a sacrament and a Holy ceremony, to please keep photography to a minimum until the ceremony is over, and no seat hopping. And then, usually right before preparation of the Eucharist, they make an explanation of what is happening and that non-Catholics should not participate in receiving communion, but may come forward for a blessing if they like. I would ask your priest what his intentions are during the mass, and then go from there. I’ve never seen anyone put a disclaimer on their program, and I personally would have a hard time writing it without it sounding offensive. Good luck =)

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