I think this is what we will have read as an introduction to our vows
We read in The Art of a Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson:
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
We are debating having another reading or reading part of the hand fasting ceremony verbage but some other options we have are:
Dr. Seuss ‘oh the places you’ll go’
“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” by Louis de Bernieres from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin
On Friendship, Roy Croft
I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, But what you see in me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand within my heart and Drawing out into the light all the beautiful and Radiant possibilities of the good in me. Perhaps, that is what being a friend means, after all. Perhaps that is true love.
I’ve been looking all over the web and using my offiant for ideas. There are so many out there, it is hard to go through and decide what is right for you.