(Closed) Ceremony readings: asking vs. offering

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Finish this sentence: I'm having someone do a reading at my ceremony because....
    I asked them to do a reading. : (26 votes)
    100 %
    They offered to do a reading. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    In both mine and my sisters wedding, we asked them. I think it would be really presumptuous/awkward for someone to offer.

    Post # 4
    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’ve always heard you are supposed to ask. I think it would be awkward if someone offered. What if you didn’t want them to do a reading? How would you say no?

    Post # 6
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I would never offer myself up to do a reading at a friend’s wedding. I would certainly expect to be asked. And I have been/will be asking our own readers.

    Post # 7
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yeah, I’m with the PP on this one – I would never in a million years dream of asking to do a reading in someone else’s wedding.  Equally, I would be really put off if someone asked if they could do a reading in my wedding!  If I want you to play a special role in our day, I will ask you, otherwise, please just be content in knowing that we wanted you to share in our special day with us.   

    Post # 8
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I made a special card to ask our two readers if they would read at our ceremony.  They both said they were honored to have been asked.

    Post # 9
    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You win!

    Post # 10
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ask of course.  I recently told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I will have her read a poem and maybe a blessings if my grandmother who is 92 can’t do it.  She was more than thrilled since she is my closest girlfriend and I was her Bridesmaid or Best Man @ her wedding.

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