(Closed) Ceremony readings & vows…HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Sorry to hear about your dad but glad he is doing okay! I would ask your officiant.  I am sure they can come up with something.

check out off beat bride.  A lot of unique readings, etc for the wedding.

we went with a quaich ceremony for ours.  We didn’t write individual vows but we did write our own.  We basically stole from a variety of what we found that we liked and then changed it until it suited us!  I actually did our whole ceremony this way!!!! 

Good luck!

Post # 3
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I wrote up my own ceremony just yesterday 🙂 

We’re keeping it pretty simple and also including a candle ceremony. We are both Catholic and using our baptism candles in the wedding. Gonna copy and paste what I’ve done. Excuse the typos – it’s a first draft! I used ideas from blogs etc. ::::

Groom and family arrive early to greet guests, hand out programs and confetti as well as usher guests to seats. FRONT ROW/s reserved for family.

Prelude music is to be playing, setting the mood for arriving family and guests.


This is the part where everyone walks down the aisle and takes their places for the ceremony. You each make your way to the altar separately, symbolizing the fact that you’re coming from different backgrounds. In a Christian procession, the bride is escorted by her father, while the groom waits for her up front.

Everyone stands, doors open. Bride enters with father. Jaws drop cos my dress is amazing

*here comes the bride!!!

Before the bride reaches the altar, the father takes his daughter’s hand and places it in the groom’s right hand. He takes his seat next to his wife, his role completed. Stacey also to hand her bouquet to dad to hold onto.

The Bride is greeted by the groom. She hands her bridal bouquet to her mom/dad.


Please be seated

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate the marriage of Shaun and Stacey. We come together not to mark the start of a relationship, but to acknowledge and strengthen a bond that already exists. This ceremony is a public affirmation of that bond and as their dearest family and friends, it is our honor and privilege to stand witness to this event. This day is made possible not only because of their love for each other, but through the grace and support of their family and friends.

Marriage is a commitment in life, where two people can find and bring out the very best in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal, a physical and emotional joining that has the promise of a lifetime.


Let us bow our heads in prayer. Lord, we thank you for gathering us here today. We ask that you help Shaun and Stacey to remember the strong love that they share now and forever. With you as their guiding light, may their love always inspire them to give their best to each other. Lord, Bless their marriage with peace and happiness and make their Love fruitful for Your glory and their joy, both here and in eternity. Amen.


Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences and new ways of expressing love through the many seasons of life.

In his letter to the Corinthians, Paul wrote: Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes in all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends.

While the commitment begins with the two of you, its effect radiates outward. It touches your family and friends and all those around you. When this commitment is seriously made and continuously fulfilled, it leads to the richest and most rewarding of human relationships.

Your joining together today becomes all the more important to recognize the significance of a devoted and affectionate family life.


You are both blessed to have come from truly loving families who recognize the importance of marriage and who have set excellent examples themselves of what love and marriage is all about. Shaun and Stacey want to publically thank Michael, Carola, Debbie and Laszlo and want everyone to know that who they are today is the result of many years of love, support and sacrifice by them.


Seeing that no moment is without meaning, we ask that you take this marriage as a true beginning of your lives together. Today signifies the creation of a new family for you both and a deeper, more meaningful bond between you and your families. May you forever be fulfilled by each other’s love and friendship. May you be overjoyed by the promises you are about to make and the life you will create together.

Remember that in every marriage, there are good times and bad, times of joy and times of sorrow. Marriage is a journey that lasts a lifetime and it is enhanced by the love, trust, dedication and faith you share in one another.

Good times are sweeter when shared and difficult times are less harsh when borne by two. May you continue to work to build a foundation that will support the lasting relationship that is marriage.

May the promises you make to one another today, be lived out to the end of your lives.

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Shaun, do you, with your family and friends as your witnesses, present yourself willingly and of your own accord to be joined in marriage today?

 [I do]

Stacey, do you, with your family and friends as your witnesses, present yourself willingly and of your own accord to be joined in marriage today?

[I do]

Officiant: To Groom: Repeat after me.

The following can be broken down line by line instead of said all at once.

Stacey, I promise to have and to hold you from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ’til death do us part.

Officiant: To Bride: Repeat after me.

The following can be broken down line by line instead of said all at once.

Shaun, I promise to have and to hold you from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ’til death do us part.

Do you, Shaun, take Stacey, to be your lawfully wedded wife?

[I do]

Do you, Stacey, take Shaun, to be lawfully wedded husband?

[I do]

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Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows by exchanging rings.

From the earliest times, the circle has been a sign of continuity and infinity. The rings that you have chosen to wear have no end, much like your love for one another. They are a symbol of the words that you speak today. May these rings be from this day forward, your most treasured adornment, and may the love they symbolize, be your most precious possession. As you wear these rings, may they be constant reminders of these glad promises you are making today.


Let us pray. Lord, bless the giving and receiving of these rings. May Shaun and Stacey be forever true to this union. May the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of their endless love and serve to remind them of the holy covenant they have entered into today. Amen

Shaun, take this ring, place it on Stacey’s finger and repeat after me.

Stacey, With this ring I thee wed and with it I give you all of the treasures of my mind, heart and hands.

Stacey, take this ring, place it on Shaun’s finger and repeat after me.

Shaun, With this ring I thee wed and with it I give you all of the treasures of my mind, heart and hands.

Today you have pledged yourselves to a lifetime of caring for one another. May this be a commitment made in love, kept in faith, lived in hope and eternally renewed. As you stand before us, it is our hope that you will go through life loving, trusting, and caring for one another, completely and forever.

Shaun and Stacey from this moment forward you will never be alone. You will carry with you the love of another person, giving you a completeness and renewed lightness. May your life together be immersed in love and light. May you strive to enrich each other in every possible way. And may you work to bring the peace you find to this world.

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The candles that were given to each of you when you were baptized are here today as is your Wedding Candle, which is at the center. Your baptismal candles symbolize the light of Christ and the promises you each made at your own baptisms.

These two side candles represent not only you, Shaun and you, Stacey, but also your individual families; for it is your families who, through love and support, have helped shape who each of you are.

The center candle is the symbol of your marriage, the symbol of the joining of 2 spirits, 2 lives, 2 souls today. The center candle represents your marriage- the joining of best friends with the added roles of husband and wife and in the future – parents. It is the light of love and the light of new beginnings. From this day onward, may you bask in the beauty of the light of your love, May its light shine bright and steady upon your path together and may its heat keep you warm through all the days of your lives and beyond.

Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one.

You are now as husband and wife offering yourselves, and all that has come to pass unto each other, towards the creation of your future, and to all that is yet to come.

Now you will take your individual tapers and light the center candle. As you do so, keep in mind the pledge you have made to each other today. It is the pledge of the truth and purity of your every breath. The constant friendship of your hearts. The passion and fire of your spirits and the deepest love your souls have to give. It is the pledge of all that is within you. The only true pledge that one heart can offer to another.

*Each Light our own taper then Light wedding candle

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Having pledged their everlasting love and fidelity to one another, to love, honor and cherish one another in the presence of this gathering and by the power vested in me it is my honor to now pronounce you husband and wife. Shaun, you may now kiss your bride! *lift veil and kiss J



Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my honor to introduce to for the first time: Mr. and Mrs. Shaun McCarthy!!

<h5>*Everyone but the immediate family can start to leave now and gather outside of the church.</h5>


The final stage is to sign the register. This usually takes place with the bride and groom, their parents and their siblings. A register entry copy, is usually given to the bride by the minister for her to keep.


Basically the reverse of the processional, you exit the ceremony together as husband and wife.


Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The piece about your Dad really is sweet. Maybe it can be as simple as “we are overjoyed with the love and support of our parents today and especially grateful to have all of them with us as we celebrate…”. That way it stands out as signifying the parents but doesnt put your Dad on the spot that he might wonder what youre referring to?

FIs cousin is singing A Thousand Years and the guitar player is accompanying her.

 My future SIL will read Union by Robert Fulgum. The words just really resonated wih me.

Post # 7
1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

We didn’t do a “union” ceremony like most do- so no sand/wine/plant&water, etc. I would definitely recommend not doing the ring prayer where you pass it through the entire audience. Most of these steps take way too long and usually bore guests. If you do something- make it quick (or just let the parents bless the rings). Or sometimes it’s better to practice before (like teaching husband how to tie a braid). 

I really stood up for a “mother’s rose ceremony” as it were. Given that my dad got to give me away, and my husband’s mom was widowed many years ago I thought it was important to recognize these women for their efforts in raising us. I didn’t tell anyone we were doing this aside from the officiant and a groomsmen who held 2 long stem roses with ribbon. Towards the end of the ceremony I got my rose and gave it my mom and a kiss- and husband did the same with his mom. It was about those women for a minute or too and they felt soo honored and they have a small keepsake to dry out. 

Text: Marriage is the celebration of coming together of two lives and it is a celebration of two people in love. The love that Groom and Bride feel for one another is a seed that their parents planted in their hearts years ago and today it has blossomed. Today, as they embrace each other in their love, they also embrace the families, which have come together on this happy occasion.

As a sign of their love for their families, Shelly and Price would like to offer these roses, to their mothers as symbols of their eternal love.

These Roses are a promise that no matter how far away you are that you are not forgotten and that you are always in their hearts.

*I wouldn’t do extra’s for the dad’s, stepmother’s, grandparents… you don’t need to do that and those people already got corsages and crap. Keeping a concise ceremony keeps everyone engaged. Thank your extended family for their help and support at the rehearsal dinner or quickly in a thank you speech at the reception. 

*Like others mentioned- I would quickly mention your father but don’t drag it out as he may get uncomfortable and like you said- you don’t want to freak anyone out about how bad it was. Is he able to walk you down the aisle or go with a wheelchair? Maybe as he gives you away (if you’re doing that) include an acknowledgment about the literal great strides it took for him to get to that place (as rehad isn’t easy). The ceremony is about you and your husband (or SO)… it doesn’t need to address the entire family. 

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