Post # 1
My fiance and I have always wanted a small ceremony and reception but we’ve made the decision to get married on our 5 yr anniversary which falls on a Thursday next yr. So we decided to have the reception the following day. Our ceremony also will be at our farm 2 hours away…does anyone know what the proper etiquette is for the small ceremony, larger reception on 2 different days…I have no idea how to write our invitations or save the dates…
PS the farm has no water or electric too…lol
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Post # 2
You will need two different invitations: one for those invited to the ceremony and reception, and one for those invited to the reception only.
The invitation to the ceremony should be worded to clearly let your guests know that there is no traditional reception following. Do not schedule the ceremony so that it ends anywhere near a normal meal time. I do think you should be offering the guests at the ceremony some small refreshment rather than just sending them on their way. Your guests would also appreciate the rental of washroom facilities. Not many people will want to use an outhouse.
The invitation to the reception should be: ” You are invited to a reception to celebrate the marriage of …”
Post # 3
How will you handle a ceremony venue with no water or electricity?
I think it would be much easier to do everything in one day. Your guests will appreciate that and you won’t have to prepare for two different events falling on different days.
If you must marry on your 5th anniversary, you will certainly need two invitations.
Post # 4
Make your ceremony a private event. You, your fiancé, the celebrant. No guests.
2 hours driving + no water or electricity + 2 hours driving back = miserable guests. Why put them through that?
Post # 5
We haven’t decided all of that yet. We were thinking of renting a “bathroom facility” but the ceremony will be only immediate family. Maybe 25 people…
We were wanting to do it at sunset so it would be around dinner time. We were thinking about just going out to eat after that. The farm is literally out in the middle of no where…it’s a good 30 mins from civilization it seems like…
Everything would be easier in one day but there would not be enough time in the day or night to do all the traveling in one day. It would be a good 4+ hrs just for traveling from ceremony to reception site
How do you word the invitations? And are save the dates necessary! ?
Post # 6
If you are having 25 guests to a ceremony around a meal time, and going out to eat
, you really need to step up and host that dinner yourselves. It would be the height of rudeness to expect people to pay for their own meal.
Sarah and Thomas Moran request the honor of your presence at a celebration of their marriage Saturday, the ninth of January at seven o’ clock Rob Roy Country Club Mount Prospect, Illinois
Reception Only Invitation Wording
Post # 7
Oh my word, please don’t put these people through all that driving and a split-the-check dinner then even more driving and make them deal with porta potties only to drag them to yet another event the next night. Even if you host (pay for) the dinner, that’s still an awful lot to ask of your guests.
Post # 8
The reception the next night is 15 minutes from where most of our guests live. I don’t expect anyone to do any of it…we want to get married at our farm because it’s special to us on our special date. That date also happens to fall in the middle of the week. Thats why we decided to have the reception on a friday (the nextday) so more can join. If people want to come then they can show up…no one ever has to do all of it, or any of it. it’s their decision…we’re not even registering for gifts. This is what makes everything so stressful. I’m out to please everyone but ourselves. I think eloping is the best thing here…lol.