- 2 years ago
I drive 40 min to go to the supermarket. I vote for “no biggie”.
I drive 40 min to go to the supermarket. I vote for “no biggie”.
I just went to a wedding with an hour and a half drive between the ceremony and reception. It was a pain and we grumbled about it but TBH it didn’t impact our overall experience. It was a lovely wedding!
Yeah that seems within the annoying range but being a good host all round could make up for it
I went to a wedding exactly like this – 40 minutes in between and hotel at the reception site. I thought it was going to be a long drive but it really wasn’t. Plus it helped use up the time in between the ceremony and reception! Then we stayed at the hotel and it was so great being there already.
We went to a wedding a couple of years ago and the church and reception were about 45mins apart. We had pictures at the church, a couple of coaches to take us to the reception, and then drinks at the other end. It was lovely 🙂
i think for all those who lived in the same area they put on a coach at a drop off point and back again that evening. Wasn’t a problem at all.
I don’t see an issue. Our venue was a 35 minute drive from where most of our guests live, and it just wasn’t a problem.
Also,given the situation (religious ceremony in your church, lack of reception venues nearby) I think it’s even more understandable.
I think it really depends on the crowd. My Fiance and I would have no probelm driving (we love going for drives), and its not that far. However, I do agree that it will just depend on family and friends and if you think they wouldn’t really mind. Of course having the reception and ceremony in the same place is convenient, but you have to remeber that this is your wedding and what makes you guys happy.
I would highly suggest hiring a bus limo or some sort of transport for your guest would make it all that much easier if you are worried about people traveling.
summer17 : Yes I also went to a wedding with the ceremony and reception about 30 min apart and they had coaches. It was actually very useful as the coach picked people up from the hotel we where staying at (we and several others where for out of town), drove us to the ceremony, after the ceremony it drove us to the reception and in the evening people shared taxi’s back to the hotel. Local people also joined us in the coach so they could drink at the reception and share taxi’s back into town later.
If you do something like this make sure that people let you know who would like to take the coach so that you know how many you will need. Also inform them where and when it is leaving and that it will not wait for people so if you miss it they will have to find their own way to the venue. And you might want to give people prices for taxi’s so they know what it will cost them to get home.
This would in no way bother me. 40 mins is really not much.
If a couple made me drive 40 minutes from one secular venue to another just to fit the Unique Vision of Their Very Special Day, I would absolutely roll my eyes and complain, but I think the fact that the drive is to allow you to get married in your home church makes a big difference. Of course you want to get married there! And there aren’t venues in your town and the drive isn’t so long! It all seems very reasonable to me.
I can’t imagine folks from your hometown other than the wedding party staying in the hotel, though, because they’d have to drive 40 minutes to check into the hotel, 40 minutes to get to the ceremony, 40 minutes back to the reception, and 40 minutes home the next morning.
I guess they could do late check-in after the reception? But at the point at which you’re driving from the reception to the hotel, bringing your bags from the car to the hotel, checking into the hotel and getting set up in your room—well, that’ll take 25 minutes and require sobriety, so you might as well just stay sober and spend the extra 15 minutes to just drive home and save $$$. Unless you’re expecting guests to check into the hotel or leave their luggage and car at the hotel during the gap between reception and ceremony, which would either make hometown people miss a huge chunk of cocktail hour or else make the gap even longer?
Any which way, it’s hard for me to imagine a scenario in which it’s particularly convenient for hometown guests to stay in the hotel rather than carpooling and/or splitting Ubers back.
silkybutterbee : would you not just check in after the ceremony?.. This is standard where I live: you attend the ceremony, drive to the reception venue, check in at that point, and then join the reception.
I can’t imagine many people have their receptions within walking distance of the majority of guests, so wherever you get married people will need to organise transport. At least a 40 minute journey is affordable by taxi so people wouldn’t have to stay.
So will your out of town guests be staying at the hotel the night before the wedding, driving 40 mintues to the church for the wedding ceremony, then driving 40 minutes to the reception? That seems a little excessive.
Are there no other options that would put your ceremony and reception venues closer together?
barbie86 : Yes my expectation would be that hometown guests choosing to stay overnight would check in to the hotel following the ceremony and then just walk down from their room to join the cocktail hour since the reception and hotel are together. I’m not really concerned about this part of it. My concern is more for out of town guests who would probably want to check in to the hotel prior to the ceremony and then would have to drive 40 minutes to my hometown and then 40 minutes back to the hotel/reception following the ceremony.
I’ve discussed with the reception venue and they said that they could begin the cocktail hour time as soon as guests arrive from the ceremony. So there would be food and drinks available as soon as the first guest arrives.
Also worth noting, uber doesn’t exist in our area and taxis aren’t used. I think I saw a taxi in our area once in my life and I just assumed they were lost. Because of this, hometown guests would either have someone in their group stay sober enough to drive themselves home or would stay the night at the hotel. But this is typical for all weddings around here, regardless of if the ceremony and reception are held at the same venue.
I think 40 minutes is the max. Sure it’s a little bit long, but if you want to get married in your home church and it’s important to you then do it. I come from a rural town where every reception I’ve been to is at least 25 minutes away so I don’t think it’s a big deal. My ceremony and reception are about 30 mins apart and I haven’t gotten any complaints from my guests.