Post # 31
misslucy : Out of town guests would arrive the day of the wedding and check in at the hotel and relax until it was time for the ceremony at which point they would have to drive the 35-40 minutes to our hometown and then back afterwards. This is the part I’m most worried about. Out of town guests are about 20% of our guest list.
Post # 32
I don’t think its that bad…mine is 20 min drive between each. However, I also have guests who are travelling 2 hours or a plane ride into the city where ceremony and reception both are. Maybe ask your parents and close friends what they think?
Post # 33
I was going to do something similar. My original ceremony location was going to be about 35-40 minutes from my reception venue. My extended family (grandparents, aunts, cousins), who do not like to leave their county lines for anything, are grumbling about having to drive about a hour to get the reception site in the city, so I knew that they would most likely skip the ceremony if I tacked that travel time on as well. So we decided to have our ceremony at the reception site. However, my FI’s family would for sure do the drive without outward complaining to me if I decided to have my ceremony 40 minutes away from the reception site. Therefore, I think it is a feel your crowd thing. If you think they’d be fine driving, then stick with your church, especially if it is important for you to get married there!
As a guest, I would be okay traveling that distance. Especially for an important event like a wedding.
Post # 34
Someone I know did this. All guests stayed at hotels near the reception venue. The bride provided transportation from the hotel to the ceremony, the ceremony to the reception and the reception back to the hotels. Can you do this?
Post # 35
tayquinn26 : That’s a good point. Fiance and I have driven 45 minutes on a week night just to watch his cousin play high school basketball and didn’t think twice about it. In that sense, 35-40 minutes for a WEDDING doesn’t seem like that big of a deal.
The family/friends that I’ve mentioned the idea to haven’t thought it was a big deal to drive between the two sites. I’m the one that’s more worried about it, especially for out of town guests and the guests that we’re not very close to. Fiance doesn’t think it’s a big deal at all and is of the mentality that “It’s our day and those who care about us will do whatever it takes to be there and those that have a problem with it don’t have to come” espcially since it’s going to be a rather expensive reception (for our area) with many hors d’oeuvres, a four course meal, and a 5 hr open bar. He thinks that a nice reception will make guests care less about having to do the drive. I’m more skepitcal of this and think I’d rather just do whatever is easier for the guests.
Future Mother-In-Law is very religious and would prefer that the ceremony be in a church. She’s not demanding about it and would be okay with us having a ceremony elsewhere but would be overjoyed if we chose to have it in a church. I’ve looked into other churches that are closer to the reception site but all of them require that at least the bride or groom be a member of the church. I personally wanted to be married in our own church because it would allow our Pastor, who knows us, to marry us instead of a random person.
Post # 36
kristin36890 : I might look in to this and see if I could provide transportation for our out of town guests from the hotel to the ceremony location and back. Since reception and hotel are at the same place, we would really only need transportation from that site to the ceremony and back for the 25ish guests who are from out of town.
Local guests who would want to stay overnight at the hotel would just drive themselves from our ceremony in our hometown to the hotel and check in prior to joining the cocktail hour so they wouldn’t need to be shuttled.
Post # 37
mackandcheese05 : out of town guests could still attend the ceremony first and check in after, though. Even if they didn’t, I still don’t see the issue, as again, this could apply to a number of weddings (check in at hotel, attend wedding/reception, head back to the hotel).
If there are no taxis in your area you might want to consider a coach or mini bus/van for those guests who would prefer not to stay, so that they can enjoy a drink. I wouldn’t say that it’s a necessity, though.