Post # 1
I need some help…
I am having my wedding in Durham, NC in April.
I have purchased my reception site, but have yet to find the ceremony site. And the only reason is because every church I’ve called thus far refuses me because I am not a member.
Has anyone dealt with this? How did you handle it? Any NC brides who know of churches in the area?
Post # 3
I am not sure what happened but I don’t think my first comment went through. Here is the second response. Go to website: http://www.merchantcircle.com/directory/NC-Durham-27709/tag/chapel. Call the various places and see if they will rent the sanctuary only, especially if the reception will be somewhere else. Some churches do rent to non-members. Good luck!
Post # 4
I have found (in the northeast anyway) that churches will hold ceremonies for non-members "for a price". They will call it a donation, though IMO anything you HAVE TO pay in order to hold a ceremony isn’t so much a donation. I know that wasn’t really helpful 🙁 Best of luck finding a place!
Post # 6
What were you raised? I ran in to that a little bit in my town but when I went to the catholic church ( I was raised catholic) they were totally cool about it. They aren’t even making me do a mass.
Post # 7
Hi, I was raised non-denominational.
I would have the ceremony at my home church, however, it is a large office center that was turned into a sanctuary. So it is not visually pleasing. It is also not that close to my reception site.
Post # 8
Have you looked at/called the chapel(s) on Duke or NCCU’s campuses?
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
Could you have the ceremony at the reception site?
Post # 10
Unless you, your fiance or parents went or works for Duke, the chapel is out. They’re very strict about it. (I’m actually getting married there in a little over a month and they’re SUPER rigid about pretty much everything). I’m not sure if NCCU would be more helpful though.
What about asking your church to contact another church for you? Do they have any affiliates?
Did you or FH go to college in Durham? Could you ask a college pastor if he is able to perform them anywhere?
Where in Durham are you getting married? I liked a bunch of the places we looked at, and I might be able to think of some more places depending on what part of Durham you are in.
Post # 11
Have you tried the Unitarian Churches? I got married in the one in Raleigh and it was great. If there’s one in Durham, they may require a small fee but they let you do whatever you want decor-wise and you can bring in whatever minister you would like.
Post # 12
I’d also suggest the Unitarian church. I’ve had friends who have used it and they definitely weren’t members!