(Closed) Ceremony rituals? Is 3 too many?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@sweetpeony:  I’d say it depends a lot on your officiant and what if any readings are being done during them.  Rituals can be very meaningful or slow and boring depending on those factors.  If your officiant is personable or if you have a really sweet or meaningful reading during, then you might be able to have three rituals. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

15 minutes doesn’t seem like enough time to do all 3, plus have your officiant say some words, and say your vows. You could do the wine box on your own though. I’m thinking of doing this instead of including it our ceremony.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

That’s a thought!  Could you maybe do the wine box ceremony even as a special pre-ceremony ritual during your rehearsal dinner?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

I say do 1 which means the most to you, as a guest sitting and having the officiant say “ok the bride and groom have decided to incorporate …. into their wedding…, they also decided to incorporate …, and …” I just think it get to be a little too long. You are the bride so do what you want. Just an opinion

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you should do either the Unity Candle or the Wine Box, and giving a rose to your mothers could definitely be a 2nd ritual.  I just wouldn’t do all three.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

Ohh, I don’t like saying “no” to any part of a ceremony. If your officiant can handle it then I would say, yes do them. Put the letters before the vows, put the candle before the ring vows and after the pronouncement but before the intro as Mr. & Mrs. ______ have the officiant ask each woman to come up as a group and then give them the roses. You will need to have everything timed well for it to not be slow but you can do it and it will be beautiful.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would definitely do the rose ceremony, that should take very little time. (or do it during the reception. Get everyones attention and make a very short speech.)

Do the unity candles.

I would do the wine box ceremony between the ceremony and pictures, just the two of you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I think you could just do the wine box on your own.  I’m actually curious as to the reasoning behind doing it as part of the ceremony. I know it’s kind of a common thing, but I don’t get why it’s something everyone needs to watch. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

i actually only did the wine box ceremony, then had 2 people read poems and we said our vows and the officiant said a bunch of stuff.  altogether it was aboout 25 mins.  i had several guests tell me they thought the wine box ceremony was really neat.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@dynamic_duo:  I’m planning to do the wine box too and I like how you did poems too. How did your officient explain the wine box to your guests?

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@ItsDestiny:  Just saw this now.  I had found the wording online (maybe even WB?) for our wine box ceremony and I gave it to the officiant to read. I did tweak it a bit to suit exactly what we did. Here is what we used:

 

WINE BOX LOVE LETTER CEREMONY

OFFICIANT (ADDRESSING GUESTS):
PurpleUnicorn and Mr. Unicorn, as a couple, have chosen to perform a Love Letter & Wine Box ceremony. 

This box will contain a bottle of wine, two glasses, and love letters that PurpleUnicorn and Mr. Unicorn wrote to each other.  The letters describe the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry. The letters are sealed in individual envelopes and they have not seen what the other has written. They are also including a small capsule of sand from the beach right here where they are getting married and a copy of their wedding vows.   In essence, they are creating a “romantic” time capsule to be opened on their 10th wedding anniversary. 


OFFICIANT (ADDRESSING COUPLE):

PurpleUnicorn and Mr. Unicorn, should you ever find your marriage enduring insurmountable hardships, you are to as a couple, open this box, share the wine, and read the letters to reflect on the love that brought you together and the promises you made to each other today in front of the most cherished people in your lives.

The hope is, however, that you will never have a reason to open this box. If this is the case, upon your 10th wedding anniversary you are to open this box to share, enjoy and celebrate your love and dedication to one another.  You can then write new letters and keep up the tradition on anniversaries of your choosing.

With that being said, PurpleUnicorn and Mr. Unicorn, please place the bottle of wine, two glasses, letters, vows, and sand capsule into the box and lock it.

OFFICIANT (ONCE ITEMS ARE PLACED IN BOX AND SEALED): 

I recommend that you keep the box in a place of honor, prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other and your vows.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

i also had similar wording in our programs so guests could read it if they wanted.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper

Are you doing first look photos? Could you maybe do the wine box then? Or could you even have your DJ announce it at your reception?

I love all of these rituals, but I wouldn’t want to overload the ceremony…I’d be afraid it may take away from how meaningful each individual ritual is.

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