(Closed) Ceremony seating – Do people know where to sit?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am not sure that this is an issue anymore, I could be wrong though.  I can’t remember the last time I went to a ceremony where they made sure the bride and groom’s guests were on seperate sides.  If anything, I’d be sure to have an usher so they can direct folks to go on both sides evenly. 

Post # 4
1565 posts
Bumble bee

I can see older guests still following this tradition, resulting in uneven sides. I think to be safe you could put up a sign or have ushers letting everyone know they could sit anywhere. 

Post # 5
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The last few weddings i have been to there have been no ‘sides’ and we wont be having them at our wedding either.  I would make it clear to your ushers that you want an even spread of guests, after all the wedding is about the joining of two families so what better way to get them familiar with each other!!

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s what ushers are for.  Left to their own devices, most people will stick with the bride on the left/groom on the right tradition.  But, if one side is totally full, I’m sure they’ll start filtering to the other. 

If it’s a concern, have ushers, and make it clear that 1) mutual friends all go to your side or 2) there are no sides, and just mix everybody up.


Post # 9
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m having people sit where ever they want at the church. My two groomsmen will probably direct the flow of people so it evens out. I have a huge family which is probably half of the guests so FI’s side would be much smaller than mine,

Post # 10
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The ushers will help in reserving VIP seats for grandparents, parents, etc. and keeping the bride & grooms guests on appropriate sides or keeping it more even at least.

Post # 11
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In church weddings, most people sit grooms side (right), brides side (left). I have never seen it be a problem. Most of the front rows are usually filled with family, so it becomes obvious which side is which. However, in the back, friends and mutual friends, it doesn’t matter as much.

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