(Closed) Ceremony SEATING ETIQUETTE Step Mom and Mom when parents are divorced

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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7637 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You said that you, your husband and the bride are all happy for you and your husband to sit in the 2nd row. So who is objecting to this, and why?

And I gather from your daughter’s posts that both the father and mother of the bride have other children. So can’t the mother’s children sit in the front row with her, and your child[ren] sit in the second row with you?

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@notsowickedstepmom:  Wow! I was on the other thread that your daughter made and I am so glad that she is getting your support and not just from us bees. 

I can totally understand why she lied at first about being on WB. Pouring your heart out to a bunch of strangers on the internet is often frowned upon and not understood by parents. Good thing she told you about it though. 


As for the seating: Do not bring this up! The bride is probably trying to be really nice and not make you feel like you are “second class” and needing to sit in the second row. Seeing as you have no problem with the MOB (mother of the bride) and she is the one with the problem, it is up to her to ask the bride to change the seating if she really feels the need. However, I can’t see how she can dislike you too much seeing as her daughter is willing to put you in the same row. It’s unlikely she didn’t discuss it with her mother first. 

Even if her mother is unhappy with it, that means that the bride has stuck her neck out for you, please don’t throw it back at her. Besides, this is a wedding ceremony and will only last say, 1 hour tops. Plus, you don’t talk during weddings so it isn’t as if you’ll have to swap dinner chat.

Just let it go, I doubt that it will be an issue (especially seeing as you don’t dislike her) and it will be much more of an issue if you throw this kindness back in the bride’s face (which I know you wouldn’t intentionally do but she may see it this way). 

Post # 34
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

double post

Post # 35
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237 posts
Helper bee

Hahaha, PPs please do not be naive. This is clearly a fake account…nooo, her daughter ALSO happens to be on WB!! Dunh Dunh Dunh. I read – and responded to (d’oh) – the “14 year old girls” posts and she couldn’t keep it straight whether her sister was a half sister, step sister, or blood sister. I wouldn’t give any more advice about a fake situation. Although, OP, maybe you’re just trying to connect to people (since this would be a weird way to troll)?

Post # 41
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

At my soon to be step daughters wedding last year (yes, I wasn’t even the official “step mom”) she did the ceremony seating like a genius!  Both her and her husband’s parents are divorced and neither couple necessarily gets along the greatest.  Both dad’s were either engaged or married at the time and both mom’s came alone (or with other family members)  SO, here was her solution:

She sat my Fiance and I and the GROOMS mother on one side in the front row….

and the grooms father, stepmother and the BRIDES mother on the other side front.

I think every situation is different, and the best advice is to just try to think outside the box and take everyone’s feelings into consideration.

 

Post # 42
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ahelsel1025:  I think that this is great. I know that people can get a bit “thingy” about which ‘side’ they sit on because if they are related to the bride they want to sit on her side.

At my cousin’s wedding the officiant actually made us swap sides. His reasoning was genius: If you are really here to see the groom (in this case) then you shouldn’t sit on the same side as them because you’ll never see his face! 

At least people can use this sort of reasoning if people object to being on the “wrong” side. 

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