Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in Canada this summer. We chose Canada for a number of reasons, but mostly because we can legally get married and do so in the mountains, which were our two criteria for choosing our ceremony location.
We didn’t invite very many people, because we knew that most people wouldn’t be able to come. But we did hope there would be around 25 to 30 people. In the last two weeks we’ve had five of our expected guests tell us they unexpectedly won’t be coming.
Including the two of us, there will now only be 17 people attending our wedding. Crying over this is over. Now I want to move onto the business of how we’re going to make our ceremony seem balanced.
We have three attendants each. If all six of our attendants and ourselves are up at the altar for the ceremony, there will only be nine people in the audience. We thought about having everyone stand, but my mother’s health isn’t great, so she needs to sit.
Any suggestions on how to arrange the ceremony so that it doesn’t look completely unbalanced? We’ve thought about having our attendants walk down the aisle, but sit in the front rows of the audience. We’ve thought about some kind of circular arrangement, but we’re having trouble envisioning it.
Post # 3
Even though we didn’t have a really small wedding, Darling Husband and I had our attendants sit after my father “gave me away”. We wanted it to just be our pastor and the two of us up there for the ceremony. So, I’d suggest having your attendants sit. They can sit in the row in front of your parents, or they can have their own seating on the sides of the front area: Just my opinion. 🙂
Post # 5
I think having the attendants sit is a great idea. Or provide charis for those that need them and let everyone else stand in a group. I wouldn’t stress to much about “how it looks” It’s small and personal so everyone is going to remember the words and feelings much more than how things look (It sounds amazing, by the way!).
Post # 6
Yeah, I think having them sit might be a good idea. I was thinking that perhaps they could get personalized chairs with their names and roles on them. Any place card ideas that are fun, funky, outdoorsy, vintage?
Post # 7
You said you are getting married in the mountains…..can I take a wild guess and say that you are getting married in Banff Alberta??? If so, congrats..you are right in my neighbourhood!
Have your attendants sit during your vows, that why the sole focus is on you two, its easier for everyone and it solves your problem of the ceremony looking bare.
Post # 8
@Imhisbride: Close! We’re getting married in Canmore! Right below the Three Sisters. 🙂
Post # 9
@lezebel: My next guess was Canmore 😉 I’m in Calgary.
Post # 10
Maybe have the 6 form a loose semi circle around the back of you and the 9 form a slightly tighter semi circle around the front of you, all seated, and you Fiance and the officiant in the center.
Wedding in the round. 🙂
Post # 11
@Americano: Ooh! That sounds really interesting.
Post # 12
All great ideas! I would for sure have your attendants sit…somewhere. That’s what I plan on doing as well. I like the semi circle idea too – or that photo that was posted above looks really cool too!
Post # 13
I love weddings in the round and if I wasn’t so set on the little white chappel Idea I would so be having one!
Post # 15
Our attendants are sitting due to one of my bms havinet terrible anxiety about being in front of people.