Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
What non-cheesy ceremony traditions did you include? Readings, too!
We’re thinking about doing communion, but we would have to only do it for us, not our guests, and I don’t know if that’s rude.
I really dislike unity candles or sand ceremonies.
I’d like to do a reading or two, but I’m not sure what! Not Corinthians, it’s so overused.
Post # 2
AllyCRN: We are doing the crowns but only because our ceremony will be Orthodox.
Where I am from (spain) they use the wedding coins or arras. It is a long explanation so here is a link. It is something different than the candles or sand…..
Post # 3
My FI is an athiest, but I’m Christian, so we’re working on creating something that represents both of us, but which won’t make either of us uncomfortable. I would love to do communion, but obviously that’s off the table. I’ve seen it done for just the couple before though, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing it that way. We’re doing a mix of readings (secular and not), and I’m choosing between Jeremiah 29:11 and Romans 12:9-18 for the religious reading. Neither is a “traditional” wedding piece, but I love both of them and I think both of them are appropriate for the context.
You may also want to consider a feet washing ceremony. I’m not sure exactly how they work, but googlel should be able to help you.
Post # 4
We had a pretty conventional service except for one thing. Rather than being prompted by the minister and repeating phrases after him we just said our vows to each other and then he married us. We had to learn the words beforehand but saying them meant so much to us.
We stuck to the words of the Church service because they are so strong and radical.
I have seen other weddings where friends and family have read the readings, played musical instruments and made speeches. The more personal you make it the more unique it will be.
Choose the Bible verses that mean the most to you.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2015 - Church
MrsYellowDaffodil: I really don’t like unity candles at all (they’re from the 1970s) but my FI wants them, so we’ll have them. I love seeing communion in weddings, even if it is just the couple. My thinking with ceremonies is that the shorter the better.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2015 - Church
SilverWire: I love the Romans passage! Have you two gone to any kind of Pre-marital counseling or classes?
Post # 7
AmAnDaSaVeD: The church requires that we do some pre-marital counseling before the wedding, but we haven’t set it up yet. I’m looking forward to it and I think it’ll be very interesting.
Post # 8
Here are the readings we used: “The Art of Marriage” short version by Wilfred Peterson
A good marriage must be created. In the marriage the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together and facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitue in thoughtful ways. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosophere in which each can grow. It is not only marrying the right person. It is being the right partner.
“Prayer of Love” by Carol Merolla
My marriage prayer for you is this: That you will always remember the qualities that attracted you to each other when you first met and how you felt as your feelings of attraction turned into respect, admiration, and finally love. That you will work hard to turn your feelings of love into acts of love so that nothing and no one can divide you. That you will always have kind and loving hearts that are quick to forgive when your partner is wrong. That your love might grow to bear all things, believe all things, and hope for all things, endure all things. I pray you place your marriage in God’s hands, and that your love increases and overflows, beyond anything you can yet imagine.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
“Interfaith Unity Candle Reading” by Rev. Clint Hufft
From every human being, there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls are destined to find eachother, their two streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being. They do not lose their indviduality; yet, in marriage, they are united in so close a bond that they become one. Now, followingthe profession of their marriage vows they will light the large center candle from the smaller candles to symbolize this new reality. In this way, they are saying that henceforth their light must shine together for each other, for their families, and for their community.
In our highlight video you can hear these beautiful readings in part. https://vimeo.com/110931938