I ran through it allowing time for certain things, and not trying to read too fast. I am going to go over it with my uncle tomorrow night (He is officiating). My aunt is going to do the short reading in there.
Friends and Family of Lady and Gentleman, welcome and thank you for being here on this important day.
We are gathered together to celebrate the very special love between Lady and Gentleman, by joining them in marriage.
As Lady and Gentleman began planning this day, the emotional climate of our country was beginning to turn its head toward incivility and unrest. Lady shares that one day she made the comment to Gentleman that she was unsure of getting married amongst so much uncertainty. Gentleman responded to her with this: “No one gets to decide our happiness but us. No one else gets any power over that.” We all can learn something from this. When I consider all of the walks of life here with us today I am reminded that it is our love for each other that makes us move forward and withstand. The best holographic doctor said once to captain Janeway of the Federation Starship Voyager: Romance is born out of differences as well as similarities. Out of the unexpected, as well as the familiar.” It is not too much of a stretch to argue that all love is born out of differences. We can connect with one another over our similarities, but we understand one another through our differences. It is in our differences that we recognize beauty in individuality. It is in their differences that Lady and Gentleman have found home in one another.
Let’s take a moment to remember what the Apostle Paul taught us about love:
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:1-3
Paul urges us to do good for one another, but what is more is that in this passage, he reminds us that our love for one another must be the driving force behind our actions toward one another. By loving one another through our thoughts, actions and deeds, we welcome God’s goodness into our lives, and truly begin to grasp peace that surpasses all understanding.
Lady, and Gentleman, as your loved ones bear witness to your union here today, remember to allow your love for one another to propel your actions, to curate your words, and to drive your deeds.
Vows (still need to add a transition here)
You cannot possess me for I belong to myself
But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give
You cannot command me, for I am a free person
But I shall serve you in those ways you require
and the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand.
I vow you the first cut of my meat, the first sip of my wine,
I shall be a shield for your back as you are for mine,
never shall a grievous word be spoken about us,
for our marriage is sacred between us and no stranger shall hear my grievance.
Above and beyond this, I will cherish and honor you through this life
and into the next.
Tie lockets together
Gentleman, Do you take Lady to be your wedded wife?
Lady, do you take Gentleman to be your wedded husband?
The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.
Lady, this ring is my sacred gift, with my promise that I will always love you, cherish you and honor you all the days of my life. And with this ring, I thee wed.
Gentleman, This ring is my sacred gift, with my promise that I will always love you, cherish you and honor you all the days of my life. And with this ring, I thee wed.
By the power vested in me by the state of Wisconsin, I now pronounce you husband and wife!