(Closed) Ceremony –what did you include?

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Post # 3
1987 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d like to know this as well as we’ll be having our ceremony outside.

I’m pretty much trying to plan for a hour ceremony however because I was told that we MUST have a “message” (sermon) during the ceremony.

Post # 5
1987 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@kperry3: I agree. I don’t believe that you HAVE to have a message. Ideally, I would want it to be no more than 15 minutes, however, when I talked to the pastor’s secretary, she informed that I should actually allot at least 30 minutes for him to speak.

Hopefully, I can convince my pastor otherwise though. Especially since the wedding is on a Sunday and people would have already gone to church and heard a “message” for the day.

Post # 7
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Our pastor gave a message, but it was super short. I think our entire ceremony took 20-25 minutes. I was definitely a fan…. Standing up there with all those peopel looking at me was kind of nerve wracking. 

Post # 8
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you should include what you would want to hear. For my wedding, we are including verses from the Bible but not a “teaching” or “message”. We are keeping it short but also want to make sure that we do make connections between our marriage and God and the Bible.

Post # 9
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is what our Order of Ceremony looks like. I can’t wait! : )


Psalm 100




Declaration of Intent


Exchange of Rings



Hebrew Benediction


Post # 10
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What we’re planning for our 30-40mn ceremony:


Greeting & Opening Prayer


Song- Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing by Robert Robinson

Readings- OT, NT

(shortish) Sermon by the Reverend J (I get a kick out of using his title as we knew him in seminary before he was anything but “J”)

Song- still to be decided upon (I want a more contemporary worship song, he wants Be Thou my Vision)

Reading- Selection from Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

The Vows


Post # 11
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Is a “homily” like a sermon?  Cause we unexpectedly have to have one if we use our pastor. 

We seriously have 90 minutes to get in, decorate, get married, take photos, undecorate and get the crap outta there before the next wedding.

He wants to talk for 20 minutes about the ephesians verse “wives submit to your husbands…etc”  I love that verse, but we’re trying to get him into 10 minutes or less

Post # 13
1 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

My fiance and I are very involved in church and strong in our faith, so we definitely wanted to include a very prominent Christian theme for our ceremony, but at the same time, we didn’t want our guests to be checking their watches and looking around distracted because of such a long-winded, drawn-out ceremony. We are allotting only about 35 minutes for our ceremony, but we both feel very content with what we are including and what we decided to leave out. This is what we are planning for our ceremony, in order:

– Party Processional

– Bridal Processional

– Call to Worship (introduction, statement of purpose, etc.)

– Prayer of Invocation (prayer for the service and its purpose)

– Scripture Reading (Colossians 3:12-17… We chose this passage because right after the scripture reading we are going to take communion. We thought this was a good, fitting passage to not only sum up what God’s calling is for us as a married couple, but what and who we are called to be in our individual lives.)

– Communion (Just my Fiance and I on stage- bread & juice)

– Exchange of Vows

– Exchange of ring (With speech about the meaning and importance of the rings)

– Wedding Prayer (prayer for us, our marriage, our lives together, our family, etc.)

– The Pronouncement

– The Kiss!

– Recessional

Post # 14
1550 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

this is what we had. our wedding was 35 minutes long.

seating of mothers, grandmothers, etc.


bridal party entrance


message (he talked about comittment to each other, having christ the center of it, encouraging each other in our calling)

exchange of vows–we wrote our own

exchange of rings

communion (while my girlfriend sang a song)

sign certificate



Post # 15
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our ceremony ran alot like @MissDareDevil‘s but we had Worship and THEN took communion… DH and I wanted a moment to stop and really let God take hold of us before our first act of husband and wife… It was my favorite part of the ceremony for sure! =)

Post # 16
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our ceremony was about an hour (I think?). It looked like this:

Walk down the aisle

Welcome/opening words

Parents give the bride away

Bouquet in memory of the grooms dad (who passed away earlier that year)

Short prayer

Scripture reading (by my dad)

Short message (he did keep it pretty short :-D)

Pledges (the “I do” part)

Vows (we wrote our own)

Exchange of rings

Communion and lighting the unity candle

Prayer over us (we invited our families and several significant people in our lives to come up and pray over us while the rest of congregation prayed from their seats)


Closing remarks


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