(Closed) Ceremony Writing

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

google "sample ceremony" thats what I did, and found A TON of stuff 🙂

However, after working REALLY hard to put together the ceremony script, our officiant was not pleased because we did not include any scripture or "origins of marriage" from the bible. Fiance and his family are not religious, I’ve gone to church in the past, but our ceremony is NOT in a church.

So today I got to sit there while he wripped my "handmade" ceremony apart 🙁 Very sad…Fiance could not make it to this meeting, but will be having a talk with the officiant at our next one.

Post # 4
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

we’re writing our ceremony!

we’ve been using this book:


It’s a little cliche in some places, but I’ve found it’s really awesome for flow/SOME wording ideas.

Also, 2000dollarwedding has this resource:


on WB, search for Mrs Cherry Pie’s wedding (she has the entire document available for download), Mrs Cream Puff, Mrs Lovebug, and I think Mrs Hummingbird too.

Post # 6
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Our officant hadn templates that you could mix and match from to make the ceremony complete. Ours is mostly unitarian with some Native Ameran mixed in.

Post # 7
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Chesapeake Bay Beach Club

I second Miss Bear Cub’s recommendation of the Wedding Ceremony Planner for a great layout of the ceremony flow and what type of passages and rites you can include.  We found the language to be a little too … formal?  But it was great to get an idea for a section and then just rewrite that idea to sound a little more like us.  You can also look up officiants online, some of them have sample ceremonies on their websites and you could pull ideas from those too – good luck! 

Post # 8
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

we wrote our entire ceremony and it’s not religious at all (will be a big surprise to some of his family members). we are both literature geeks (he’s an english teacher and i’m a writer). we adapted out ceremony from tom robbins stilllife with woodpecker (i read about someone else who had someone do a reading of this in their wedding)–it’s the section that begins "who knows how to make love stay? 1. Tell love you are going to Junior’s Deli on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn to pick up a cheesecake, and if love stays, it can have half. It will stay." but instead we used a bunch of things to tell love from our relationship. Our officiant will say all of that. Our vows to each other are about how we’re going to make love stay. We have a couple of readings of poetry, our ring ceremony and that’s that!

Post # 9
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

i agree with the other bees above.  you could read different examples of what’s out there and tailor them to your own liking.  after a while, they begin to sound repetitive and you’ll see what stands out for what you want.

we didn’t write our own ceremony but we did write our own vows and wrote something about why we are marrying the other person.  for these parts, we gave them to the officiant without knowing what the other wrote until the actual ceremony.  it was great! we also had options for every part of the ceremony and mixed and matched what we liked. that could be a compromise to have your officiant involved.



Post # 10
13 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am planning on writing our ceremony, hopefully with Fiance. He’s not into the whole writing our vows thing, but I think if I sit down with him and get him talking, we’ll be able to get something really "us" out of it. I don’t want the whole, "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today" stuff, so I have spent a lot of time googling different ceremonies and picking a choosing different things I like to show to Fiance. I hope to incorporate the hand ceremony, and an Irish blessing, and a tribute to those passed. We’ll see how it goes. I also recommend the library. Ours had a ton of books about vows, toasts, and readings, and that way you don’t have to buy a book that may or may not work for you.

Post # 11
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m with the other who recommended The Wedding Ceremony Planner … it totally guides you through the process. You can also find readings from ANYWHERE!  Any book, song, poem, movie … any anything.  Have fun with it!

Post # 12
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are writing our own ceremony as my brother will be our officiant.  I don’t have it with me, but you can find a ton of stuf online.  I googled ceremony outline and started peicing things together myself.

Post # 13
49 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m also going to recommend the Wedding Ceremony Planner – just got it this week.  It’s a quick read, and if you take notes, you’ll find that you’ll like bits and pieces here and there.  All those bits and pieces add up to a complete ceremony that should speak to who you are as a couple. We’re closer to completing our ceremony – which is good, since our friend-turned-officiant is getting nervous, poor patient guy that he is!

Post # 14
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I googled wedding ceremoonies and stuff and came up with lots of samples.  Mrs. Cherry Pie helped write her ceremony and posted it on here, we used some of her ideas.  We’re doing the same thing, we’re not religous, so we hired a Justice of the Peace to marry us and then I gave her the ceremony to read.

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