(Closed) CFBC and terrified that I might get pregnant

posted 6 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
189 posts
Blushing bee

I used to have that exact same thing happenf about every 6 months as well even the abortion thought. It always confirmed  to me that I really did not want kids. 3 years ago I got an iud and that helped me have less of these scares. Even with the iud I still get them sometimes though, and its still always terrifying!

Post # 3
8367 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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themoonofhislife:  Have you considered longer-lasting BC? The internet is full of horror stories about the shot, but everyone I know IRL who gets it LOVEs it. You could also look into a vasectomy. Depending on your fiance’s age, you might have to shop around for a doctor willing to do it, but it would be worth it.

Post # 4
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

YES! I have this fear all the time. I made a post a week or so ago about sterilization because of this. The issue is that, while there are doctors who will perform the procedure, there are still many doctors who will not, due to my age. They want 32+ in age. I am going to keep pushing because I am sick of living in anxiety about it. I know it’s not for everyone, but I would suggest an IUD. It’s more reliable than the pill.

I, too, am pro-choice but I’m also unsure that I could actually go forward with an abortion. It’s a really tough thing to fight with. I say, don’t fight with the idea unless you truly are pregnant. 

The anxiety of possible pregnancy KILLS. I feel you, girl. 

Post # 5
743 posts
Busy bee

I’m very familiar with that fear, and given an accidental pregnancy I’d have an abortion in a heartbeat  (I used to work at an abortion clinic, so no fear here). What helped for me was switching from the pill to something with less room for human error. I’ve had an IUD for 2 1/2 years now and it did a lot to put my mind at ease.

Post # 6
881 posts
Busy bee

Why don’t you get an IUD?

Post # 7
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Can you double up on birth control? I am on the pill and we use condoms, and I (almost) never have anxiety about being pregnant. 

Post # 8
334 posts
Helper bee

I would recommend using a longer-term birth control like the IUD, especially if you aren’t taking your pill at the same time everyday. 


Post # 9
3259 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

If you’re not taking your pill at the same time every day then it’s not the right method for you. Have you considered an IUD?

If I was you I’d take a test to get over the fear, then look into other bc methods.

Post # 10
839 posts
Busy bee

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themoonofhislife:  I do. Fiance and I are not exactly CFBC (although I would have no complaints if we went that way) but are more CFFN (child free for now). We are not in the right place for a child. And while I am also pro-choice and an abortion would be the right choice for us, but it would be a really hard thing to go through. 

Taking your pill the same time everyday really only matters if you’re on a mini-pill. Combination pills are fine as long as they’re taken within a 6ish hour time span daily. But if you’re worried, I agree with PP, consider an IUD or Implanon as longer form of protection.

Post # 11
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I am a big advocate for Paragard. Big upfront cost but it lasts 12 years, so it is actually a HUGE cost saver in the long run and it is the birth control most women doctors use. Pretty much the most effective non-permanent BC for women you can currently find. If it’s that much of a scare for you, maybe you should look into it!

Post # 12
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Id suggest a more reliable birth control method like an iud or the depo shot to avoid scarws 

Post # 13
2021 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

I love my nuva ring. set it and forget it. change every 4 months. no period, no babies, everybody wins.


Post # 14
261 posts
Helper bee

No method of BC is 100 percent effective except abstinence. If you don’t want to get pregnant you should abstain, Consider a Bc method with a lower rate of user error such as an IUD, or more permanent methods, or use condoms with BCP to ensure you have a back up.

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Post # 15
5965 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have this crazy fear as well. We’re still on the fence leaning towards no kids and I have a freak out about every 4-5 months. My DH jokes that I should buy stock in the pregnancy test company 😉

Now that we have decided not to have kids for at least a few years (if at all) I will be asking my gyno about an IUD at my next appointment. I am currently on the NuvaRing but I randomly get weird bleeding every few months that I think is implantation bleeding (hence the freak outs).

I am pro choice as well but would have a very difficult time making that decision. 

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