Post # 1
I had a scare this week. I have been on my placebo birth control pills but only had my period for one day which I know is common the first month of pregnancy, and I was having way worse cramps than I usually do the next couple of days – lower abdomen and back pain. I usually have no cramps and a light flow for about 3-5 days. I was so scared! I’m six months away from the best day of my life and I have no idea what I’d do If I got pregnant.. First of all, I do not want to be six months pregnant on my wedding day! Second, I am 22 and while I never want kids, I ESPECIALLY don’t want kids right NOW. Fiance and I barely have enough time to take care of our fur baby with all the fun we’re still out having. Good thing cats mostly take care of themselves!! I took a pregnancy test today and it was negative and I was sooooo relieved.
This paranoia hits me probably once every 6 months or so. I have an irregular period, or Im not taking my birth control at the same time every day, and I just freak out and imagine what terrible sacrifices I’d have to make if the pregnancy test came back positive, or imagine if I could go through with an abortion. I’m pro choice and don’t believe a fetus is a person until it starts having brain activity, but it would still be a hard decision you know?? Does anyone else have this crazy fear???
Post # 2
I used to have that exact same thing happenf about every 6 months as well even the abortion thought. It always confirmed to me that I really did not want kids. 3 years ago I got an iud and that helped me have less of these scares. Even with the iud I still get them sometimes though, and its still always terrifying!
Post # 3
Have you considered longer-lasting BC? The internet is full of horror stories about the shot, but everyone I know IRL who gets it LOVEs it. You could also look into a vasectomy. Depending on your fiance’s age, you might have to shop around for a doctor willing to do it, but it would be worth it.
Post # 4
YES! I have this fear all the time. I made a post a week or so ago about sterilization because of this. The issue is that, while there are doctors who will perform the procedure, there are still many doctors who will not, due to my age. They want 32+ in age. I am going to keep pushing because I am sick of living in anxiety about it. I know it’s not for everyone, but I would suggest an IUD. It’s more reliable than the pill.
I, too, am pro-choice but I’m also unsure that I could actually go forward with an abortion. It’s a really tough thing to fight with. I say, don’t fight with the idea unless you truly are pregnant.
The anxiety of possible pregnancy KILLS. I feel you, girl.
Post # 5
I’m very familiar with that fear, and given an accidental pregnancy I’d have an abortion in a heartbeat (I used to work at an abortion clinic, so no fear here). What helped for me was switching from the pill to something with less room for human error. I’ve had an IUD for 2 1/2 years now and it did a lot to put my mind at ease.
Post # 6
Why don’t you get an IUD?
Post # 7
Can you double up on birth control? I am on the pill and we use condoms, and I (almost) never have anxiety about being pregnant.
Post # 8
I would recommend using a longer-term birth control like the IUD, especially if you aren’t taking your pill at the same time everyday.
Post # 9
If you’re not taking your pill at the same time every day then it’s not the right method for you. Have you considered an IUD?
If I was you I’d take a test to get over the fear, then look into other bc methods.
Post # 10
I do. Fiance and I are not exactly CFBC (although I would have no complaints if we went that way) but are more CFFN (child free for now). We are not in the right place for a child. And while I am also pro-choice and an abortion would be the right choice for us, but it would be a really hard thing to go through.
Taking your pill the same time everyday really only matters if you’re on a mini-pill. Combination pills are fine as long as they’re taken within a 6ish hour time span daily. But if you’re worried, I agree with PP, consider an IUD or Implanon as longer form of protection.
Post # 11
I am a big advocate for Paragard. Big upfront cost but it lasts 12 years, so it is actually a HUGE cost saver in the long run and it is the birth control most women doctors use. Pretty much the most effective non-permanent BC for women you can currently find. If it’s that much of a scare for you, maybe you should look into it!
Post # 12
Id suggest a more reliable birth control method like an iud or the depo shot to avoid scarws
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
I love my nuva ring. set it and forget it. change every 4 months. no period, no babies, everybody wins.
Post # 14
No method of BC is 100 percent effective except abstinence. If you don’t want to get pregnant you should abstain, Consider a Bc method with a lower rate of user error such as an IUD, or more permanent methods, or use condoms with BCP to ensure you have a back up.
Post # 15
I have this crazy fear as well. We’re still on the fence leaning towards no kids and I have a freak out about every 4-5 months. My DH jokes that I should buy stock in the pregnancy test company 😉
Now that we have decided not to have kids for at least a few years (if at all) I will be asking my gyno about an IUD at my next appointment. I am currently on the NuvaRing but I randomly get weird bleeding every few months that I think is implantation bleeding (hence the freak outs).
I am pro choice as well but would have a very difficult time making that decision.